Tell everyone what would be a good reason for you to break up with your boyfriend/girllfriend.

This could be a great opportunity to learn what one shouldn't do when being on a relationship dont you think?

Here's my answer:
-If he cheated (of course, and I would never ever get back with him)
-If he hated animals
-If he thought too much of himself
-If he hated HP and bugged me about it

-if he cheated
-if he though too highly of himself
-if he said i was ugly
-if he was rude to my friends
-if I was more important than his friends who want to watch "stuff" on tv
-if he was always late
-if he was lazy, never took me out.
-if he hated HP.
-if he never opened a book in his life, or ever passed the first chapter of a book without falling asleep

I used to think that I would leave him when he would cheat. It happened, I didn't go. It happened many,many times and I didn't go. What I mean to say here is that you can never say before how you would react in the end when the described thing really happens.
I left him in the end, but not just because of the cheating, but for other reasons as well. The thing is, if a person doesn't respect you as the person you are, if he makes fun of you, doesn't care about your feelings or only cares about himself/herself, then this person doesn't love you. It sounds hard, but in my oppinion that's what it is.
And also leave him, when the suffering is bigger than the 'happier' moments.

I'm gonna tell you why I broke up with my ex...

// I didn't miss when we were seperated for 3 weeks (that has got to say something)
// If I wanted to do something spontaneously (sp?) he was always too tired
// He was never enthusiastic about things I made/did

And probably some other things, it all came out in the end.

And now I'm saying that I'd break up with my boyfriend if he would cheat on me, but you never know...

well if i had a boyfriend to break up with id break up with him for any (or all) of the following reasons:

*he cheated on me
*he didn't have a sense of humor
*hes boring to have around
*hes super stupid
*he was some kind of tough dude who never showed his emotions around me
*hes shallow


well thats about it for now...of course ive never had a boyfriend to break up with so hehe!

they moved away. like 3000 miles away. after two years. gah.

or they're from my town/school and ask me out. I have high standards, that this pigstile of a dump can't fulfill. except once. but shoe moved. so blah.

I'd break up with a boyfriend if..

- I felt disrespected by them;
- I did something wrong and they "forgave me", but kept bringing it up;
- I didn't feel the same way they did;

& yes, there are definitely many other reasons, I just can't think of any right now. =/

Okay... let's see why I broke up with my boyfriend...

-- He never gave me any compliments, if I had new clothes, new hairstyle... he didn't say anything, or say something like, "You're hair's too short" (Yes, he actually said that)
-- When I was trying to say anything, he started doing different things, but if he said something and I did that, he would go mad at me
---- If I tried to explain anything, he just said, "Hey, I'm not stupid, okay? I do know that," and if I said something I had said before, he said, "You've already told that, there's no point in telling it again, cause I manage to remember things like that."
-- He didn't care about me at all
-- He never read anything! Never opened a book, and he called Dumbledore "Dumbledorff"... which made me go mad, of course
-- Once he said, "Now I've eaten so much that I'm just as fat as you!"


Well... those were some of my reasons to break up with him ... I've never regret I did so ...

let me see. i would break up with a guy if
~if he was rude
~ cheated
~had no originality.
~ cared more about video games, ect than me.
~ did illegal, and uncool stuff (drugs, drinks, ect)
~ was really really stupid.
~ was in a gang.
that all i can think of.

Here are some of my reasons of why i would break up with a boyfreind:

-he cheated
-was rude not only to me but to others as well(such as friends)
-never ants to hang out with me
-hates my friends
-liked movies,music, and games more than me
-always looking at other girls around me
-falling alseep around me or if we are somewhere
-always late for a date or some event
-a rude or cruel personality
-drugs or drank alcohol
-cared only about his looks

A lot of these reasons seem like reasons to not go out with someone in the first place don't you think?

Reasons I broke up with my boyfriend:

couldn't keep a job
pathological liar
slacker
didn't look forward to talking to him on the phone, or going out with him anymore

Ladies - a piece of advice - never settle - always date someone you respect and can talk to at the same level. I know that some guys seem this way when you first start dating them, but when you start to have the same conversations over and over again about the same things all the time, then you know something is wrong. Look for someone that has great stories to tell, and they aren't always the same stories.

Free advice, not solicited, but given anyway!

Guin

If she was not into doing things, No Job, Moocher, Well if she never held my hand, hugs, kisses, that sort.. If she didnt do anything, Trouble Maker.

more...

*if he ever told me Fall Out Boy and Harry Potter sucks [being rude, ok, thats what i mean by this]
*if he only cared about my looks [which arent that awesome anyways]
*if he avoids me [yeah, never good]
*if he never shows his love for me
*if he is arrogant
*lied to me too much.
*if he ever said 'i love you' but never meant it [someone i thought i liked once said this to me, twice, and it turned out not to be true]

thats all i can think of for now.

I would only break up with my girlfriend/boyfriend if they were cheating on me or they were mean to my friends or they were just plain arrogant. I wouldn't break up with them over trivial things like if they didn't like reading or Harry Potter or the subjects I school. I would just love them for who they are and only break up with them for those top reasons.

A lot of people have the same sort of view

-If he cheated
-If he was mean to my "friends"
-If he made me his last prioroty
-If he disrespected me
-If he made me feel bad about myself
-If he was obsessed with another girl
-If he wasnt independant
-If he didnt try hard in school
-If he couldnt take a joke
-If he was a liar
-If he flirted with everyone
-If he was shallow
-If he moved to fast(and didnt respect my wishes)
-If he was full of himself
-If he tried to be someone else to fit in
-If he would go on about how he hates Harry Potter and made me feel bad for liking it( I know people have their own views but somethings are better left unsaid)
-If he never complimented me
-If he was always late to meet me
-If he was a criminal
-If he was physically or mentally abusive
-If he wasnt supportive
-If he used me
-If he forgot my birthday
-If he constantly borrowed money off me and never paid me back(I'm talking a lot of money)

A lot of people say that they would leave him if he cheated on you.. but I think it is as laudine said, you can't say before it has happened to you. It depends on which kind of person he is, how long you've known each other etc.. If you really love eachother, and you can see that he never meant to hurt you.. well, I would maybe have stayed with him. I'm not garantueeing anything, it's just my opinion of it.

Let's see ... I haven't been very lucky, I suppose.

BF#1 -- broke up with me because I was not girlish enough, and not "sweet".

BF#2 -- he proposed, but it's good I didn't accept because later it turned out that he was gay. He is now happily married to a guy.

BF#3 -- we were drifting apart, the relationship lacked common ground, and he moved to another country.

BF#4 -- became a depressed couch potato. I tried to live under his black cloud but ended up not wanting to go home. Ihad to throw him out before I became a depressed couch potato as well. I felt terrible about that.

BF#5 -- he broke up with me because he wanted me to care more about my looks and clothes and being a good hostess. He dumped me at a rotten time, but he did me a favour: his lack of imagination and compassion made him totally unresponsive to my passions and each of us missed the companionship that we needed. He now has the fortune huntress he deserves.

Now I've been single for many years and have close friends of both sexes rather than boyfriends. There are times that I wish I had a companion, but such don't manifest themselves on command. I'd rather be lonely than embroiled in another bad relationship.

Wow, that's a story, Bumblebee! I've only had one boyfriend, but despite to my age, that's maybe not so unusual. Like you, I sometimes wish I had a boyfriend, but I've found out it's not really that important (not yet, anyway!), and I have so many great friends (of both sexes) that I don't need it. I'm really pleased I am single

I would break up with my boyfriend if he:
-cheated on me
-was rude about Harry Potter
-disrespected me and friends
-was in a gang or did illegal stuff
-was into drugs
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Haha yah like when Ron was too chicken to ask Hermione to the ball she says "Next time pluck up the courage and ask me to the dance yourself, and not as a last resort."

Touching, Ron you suck. Harry and Hermione for the win.

i would break up with my b/f if...
he cheated on me
he did drugs
he put me down
he lied to me
he treated me different around his friends
he was rude to my friends

and probably more stuff that i cant think of right now

The last guy I went out with seemed really nice at first. We were together for over a year, and we were engaged to be married. But one night he got drunk and we had a really stupid fight over some small thing I can't even remember. He hit me in the face, so I punched him back, knocking out two of his teeth and one filling in the process. I then told him to get lost. I just want to let all you girls know that if he hits you once, he will do it again. Don't believe him when he says he's sorry and he won't do it again, because he will. This was the first time this guy had hit me, but it was also the last. It was a deal breaker. He did the old trick of buying me flowers and apologising, but I didn't buy it.
So, if your boyfriend hits you, even if he's never done it before, that is definitely a reason to break up with him.

Wow, Kymar, that is really something for us to remember. I'm sorry he hit you, it must be terrible. But I am absolutely going to remember it, it makes sense what you say. Thanks for sharing it to us, I really appreciate it

That's OK. Just wanted to let everyone know that there are worse things than cheating. Cheating is usually a deal breaker for me too, but I think it depends on the circumstances, and how much you are prepared to fight for the guy (or girl). Cheating is something that needs to be looked at in the context of the relationship, whereas abuse is something that just shouldn't be tolerated at all. I was just a bit concerned when I read these posts, and most of them talk about cheating, but I didn't see a single one mention violence.

Oh yes Kymar I agree with you.My boyfriend hit me.He came and apologised.I was a fool to forgive him,you know.He did it again and I had to break up with him.He is now going on with another girl and I know how much he is torturing her.She inturn goes back of him.*sighs* For some people we can't change their opinions,you know.

If he
-cheated on me
-abused me
-ddin't accept me or my beliefs

Those are the main ones. Of course, there are some other ones that I'm not thinking of but I wouldn't put up with.

Btw, thank you Kymar for your post. I agree with you one hundred percent and will remember your story in future relationships.

i am not going to write any reasons because everyone before me has pretty much listed them down. but there are not perfect men/women out there so we have to live with what we have.

You folks have baggage!

Me, very few things mnake it to the list of reasons why I'd ditch-erm-breakup with my girlfriend.

1)Not going anywhere. Not to be confused with no commitment. When I say not going anywhere I mean we don't have any actual feelings for each other and there's no spark...Also applies to marriage.
2)Cheated. Sleeping around!? Trust foundation broken, relationship crumbles.
3)Addict. The only thing I don't mind id coffe, everythingelse is hazardous to my health.
4)Is slowly become an evil witch/hag/substitute what you like.

That's it.

i broke up with my boyfriend because he took all my energy from me...
he was always talking about how much he hated live and himself...and he depressed me so much... though i tryed to help him it wasn´t getting better...
than he started telling me what i should do, i wasn´t alowed to go out with my girlfriends anymore, because he was jealous of them...
and he started hurting himself...i couldn´t help him anymore i´m not a therapist and i was afraid what he was going to do next.

Ah! The control freak. The second best reason to ditch someone. Next only to what you already mentioned suffocation. I knew a girl who was stuck in a relationship like that. She unfortunately dragged it on for a year and even started sleeping with him. I hope you got out before you did anything stupid. And I hope you realize no matter how much you want to save someone you can't if they won't let you.

thank god i got out before it was too late!
( and i did nothig stupid that i could regret )
but i´ve got this helping-other-people-disease...
i never thought that i could get in such a situation...and it was the first time i´d to tell someone that i don´t want to see him anymore.

i felt so relieved as it was over ( that sounds so bad...but he really sucked me dry...).

Weeellll....first I'd have to actually get a boyfriend But if I had one, these would be the reasons why I would break up with him:

1. He did drugs
2. He tried to get me or my sisters or friends to do drugs
3. He wasn't nice (lol i know that sounds stupid but its important!)
4. He hit (me or anyone else for that matter)
5. He drank and drove
6. He DRANK period
7. He bullied others
8. He stole or commited some other felony

Hmmm...that's all I can think of for now...

IF he

• cheated
• if he hated HP
• If he treated me badly
• if he treated my friends badly
• if he tortured animals
• if he was in jail
• if he was rude or mean to others

*Fleur*

I would break up with my boyfriend if he was....

1. too young or too old, I have a age limit though people say that age is nothing buta number its more than that too me.
2. did drugs
3. too boring
4. cheated
5. looked at other girls and told me they were fine
6. couldn't take of himself
7. has no furture plans
8. just isn't my type
9.assaults or harrasses others or me
10. has nothing that physicaly attracts me to them

I'm not looking for a husband or Mr. perfect, just some one close to it.

just about five minutes ago i called my bf and a girl answered! i asked for him and she was like
"Ryan, honey, i think it's your mom." he got the phone and i screamed at him for like five minutes! I HATE HIM!

If he was cheting on you, you need to kick him to the curb. I wouldn't just be screaming, I'd be cursing and banging the phone. That's something I just can't tolerate.

Oh yeah, I would also break up with a guy if he was too sensitive. It's okay to be soft, but I'm not looking for another girlfriend, I want a man. One of my best friends broke up with her boyfriend because he watched desperate housewives. I really wouldn't care, but I just think that it's funny.

i know he just came over and tried to explain, with that girl there with him, she looked scared. and after he admitted on cheating on me, she didn't know that he had two girlfriends so we both dumped him, and now he is probably at home crying.
i hope.

Lol. Yeah, you go girl. Now your single, and you can date other people. This time you can find yourself a guy who would treat you right. Every girl deserves it, except the ones who take advantage and treat the guy wrong.

I hope he's crying too. How depressing, to go from two girls to none.

Thanks, that means alot. and today at school he tried to talk to me and make up, but my friend, who happens to be a guy, helped me out by coming over to me and saying 'hey baby ready for class?' and then he left EXTREMELY angry! so now he got a partical taste of his own medicine. but i'm not a cheater like him!

well there are tons of reasons but i'll just list the reasons why i broke up with my last boyfriend ok
*controling
*jealous
*hated my friends
*didn't like the fact i loved reading
*he would call me way to many times a day!
*i could go out, talk to or talk about my best friend jus cuz he's a guy
*thought harry potter was a waste of time
*liked snogging(sp?) way to much

i guess that's all but the cheating thing everyone is mentioning is also important!
oh i almost forgot the last reason
*i think he wasor is a bit gay

lol well the main reason i would break up with a guy would be of he was doind drugs or anything like that.... or if he woudln't let me be with my friends. that would REALLY bug me!

Well dang...you all took up everything I had thought of to say! I guess that's a good thing though. My three major things are smoking, drinking, and drugs. Those are the three things that I espescially don't condone, and won't tolerate.

I broke up with my jerk boyfriend because:

- He was annoying
- He was mean
- He hung around with a group of bullys
- He liked someone else
- His friends teased me
- He ingnored me


All in all he was stupid and a freek.

well, i don't exactly have a bf at the moment, but if i did, the reasons why i would break upwould be-

-drugs, smoking
-violent, controling
-sexist
-ignorant
-interested in nothing, but a physical relationship
-flirt
-suspicous & nosy
-boring & embarresing

well iv kind of given up hope.. the last girlfriend i had left me and i dnt relly kno y, i mean i do but its complicated. apparently wen i started dating her i became 'mushy' and always wanted to hold her etc wen i was with her, too clingy relly. wen i thnk about it i guess its prob cos i liked her so much. anyway iv had about 5 or 6 girlfriends before her, but those wer relly jst shallow type relationships. my last was more.. i dno, we had a connection? we would tlk for ages and it was relly good, not always jst making out like the last times. anyway shes left me now, and doesnt tlk to me anymore. i had some problems with my parents splitting up and she doesnt wana hear about all of it so yer, iv given up. im not gonna date another girl for a while now, cos i always end up screwing things up somehow.

i think all these reasons are good reasons to break up with someone...most of these reasons aply to men (thats what i think). but i just wanted to get off topic for one post and say i think [size=3]Im in love

varkatza, i'm so sorry to hear about that, in a way we are kinda in the same situation, my boyfriend cheated on me and now every time i see him he laughes at me, and the other girl is being really mean to me, she says i "stole her man" but really, is a man a person who goes and betrays your trust like that?

Back in the day in grade.8 or Junior High, of course my mates had girlfriends and boyfriends, but before summer vacation, they all broke up because when we would go to High School, there would be plenty of new faces and if they asked you out, it would be weird to say I have a girlfriend from last year already, sorry. So they all decided to meet new people and continue being the best friends we all were.

thanks kitcatgurl13, and jst a week ago i lost one of my best friends tha was a girl. we hooked up on new years and now she wants me out of her life and hates me, cos apparently i took advantage of her, which i didnt but yer, theirs nothing i can do cept suck it up, and on top of that, iv had insomnia for the past 3 months which sucks
hope ur getting along better now that ur single, and that guy sounded like a he was a d***head to u, and u deserve better

Well I like this thread because I have been planning on breaking up with my boyfriend. My reasons are:

1. My dad would kill me if he found out
2. He's just not my type
3. We hardly spend any time together

Now I just need to pluck up the courage to actually do it.