Personally I find it quite difficult to trust/rely on new people or infact my friends, since many have walked all over me in the past for no apparent reason as I've always treated them with respect and how they would like to be treated so people as such are not worth the bother, on the other hand I fully trust my close family and my best friend, I could rely on them any day, but i do trust a couple of other persons, but i will not release their names, they might not appreciate it if they don't want their personal information given away. =)

Rach

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This is a very good topic. I like it a lot! Well, never actually thought to myself, 'who do I trust' before. I really have to think about this. I mean, I trust my family. I tell my family so much. Probably my next youngest sister is the one I talk to the most. I tell her most of my secrets. But she is only 13 and I'm 16, so I don't tell her everything. It's not that I don't trust her, just sometimes it's not something I want to talk about with her. My best friend is the one who I tell everything. We've been friends since I was 7 and she's like a sister to me. We are so close, we tell each other everything. I also talk to my mom a lot and tell her a lot of things. But sometimes I like to keep a few secrets to myself, which isn't a bad thing either. But my family I would trust more than anyone.

Hmm well there are really three people i trust completely:

First of all my older sister Rachael, she is 19 and i am 17, so because of our ages we were very close growing up, and i know she would always be there if i needed help in any way

Secondly my best friend Gail , we've been friends since we were five, and she knows me better than anyone, i can tell her anything and i know she wont repeat to another person, and she always knows how to talk to me, if that makes sense, like she knows if i'm upset or anything right away

Lastly, my other amazing friend Claire the great thing about her is that she isn't afraid to tell me when i'm talking utter rubbish! We have an identical sense of humour, and when i'm with her, we just find everything hilarious! I can tell her anything, and she can always make light of a bad situation

Soooo yeah! With those three around, things are pretty easy for me

Nasuada, I was surprised that had never thought about who you trust. I am a very internal person (meaning I reflect a lot), so I am always surprised when others seem otherwise.

Trust is an odd thing. It must be earned, yet sometimes one may trust another without knowing why. In my entire life, I have only trusted four people. I trust myself. I trusted my friend Eddie (he died six months ago today). I trust my friend Dani (who is basically my adopted mom). I trusted my (now ex) girlfriend. Eddie and Dani earned my trust over a number of years. For some reason, I felt I could trust my ex right away. I turned out to be wrong (she cheated on me and lied about it).

I want to ask, for those of you who do trust, how do you react when someone breaks your trust?

The people I truly trust.

My best friends
All of my other really good friends
Myself

I want to ask, for those of you who do trust, how do you react when someone breaks your trust?

I have never really had someone completely destroy my trust in them, the only times my trust in someone has been shaken has been extremely minor things so I shrug it off and laugh about it later. Like a little secret wouldn't bother me all that much if it got repeated. That has only happened to me like once and it wasn't a big deal and it has never happened since. I went and talked to the person when I heard and cleared everything up, I forgave them and in a few days my trust in them was completely restored but that person wasn't like one of my best friends.

Wow ATB sorry to hear about your friend and your girlfriend; I never understand what is the point of breaking trust if one of the best things in life is to be trusted. Probably people think that by me saying that I trust easily but that's not true.

I personally only trust 2 people in the world. My dad and my friend Kristina. My dad has not only been my father, but he has played a better role as a mother better than my own mom [yes my parents are divorced]. He is also my friend. I tell him everything. From issues in school, to my girl problems; I even tell him about guys I like and stuff like that. If you were to ask my mom if I have ever told her about guys I like her reaction might as well be OMG she's liked boys before?! She knows that I like them but I have never once told her my problems. I have never had a mother daughter relation with her and we never had those 'girl' talks that you see on TV. My dad has pretty much done everything in life for me. He has told me pretty much everything in his life that I should know about and he has never lied to me. I am just like my dad in so many ways which is probably also why we connect so much.

My friend Kristina; We've been friends since the 8th grade but we have experinced every single stabbing that you can possibly imagine; We've drifted and returned and drifted again. We stopped talking after awhile but we worked our way back as if we were starting al over in meeting eachover. Now we are going to 11th grade and we are at a level of understanding eachother that we know eachother so well its scary; She knows what makes me happy at any moment... HOTDOGS haha. But I don't trust easily. It takes awhile for me to trust. Heck I don't think I trust myself that well. I wonder sometimes the decisions I make and whatnot. But whatever I learn to live with myself.

I want to ask, for those of you who do trust, how do you react when someone breaks your trust?

Well if its someone that's whatever I get upset and frustrated becuase it's like well that's one less person I can trust. If it's one of the 2 that I trust its really hard to think straight. Im just steaming mad but I don't know who to be mad with. Them for breaking the trust or myself for trusting... I don't I havne't faced that issue, like a serious trust break.

I want to ask, for those of you who do trust, how do you react when someone breaks your trust?

It really depends who broke it. If it was one of my closest friends, I would feel betrayed, used and so, so mad. If it was someone who I don't know that well, it wouldn't matter, because I wouldn't tell them anything I care about people finding out. It also depends on HOW they break my trust. If they tell someone a secret of mine, I would be really mad. If they broke my trust any other way, I'd be less mad probably. It all depends, really.

On the other hand, my closest friends and my best friend have never let me down, so I know I can trust them with anything and everything

Like After the Burial said, I'm also a very internal person. And I find it very hard to trust people, I can't just trust people. They really have to earn my trust.

That being said, there's no one I trust fully. No one.
Partly because I stop myself from trusting people so that they can't hurt me as much, but also because I just can't. There's something that stops me trusting someone completely.

I do have people who I have a lot of trust in, who I can rant to about my problems and they will help me, and who I will try to help them when they have their problems.
But I still stop myself from trustng them fully.

Trust is a very hard thing to come by, and if I'm going to trust someone fully it would take years for them to build up that kind of trust.

I don't even trust my best friend who I've known since I was like 4 fully. And I tell her a lot too.

Kelly
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I reflect and think alot aswell, but I've never thought about it that way, either. I understand what Nasuada means, it's like you simply don't see it like that.
For me, I just don't see it as such a barrier, maybe that's why I never paid attention to it before. I think trusting people is not hard for me. Not that I tell everything about me to anyone neither do I trust them equally. Maybe the thing is that I find people out and see in what things can they be trusted. Or maybe the people I like are simply trustworthy ones?


I'm very sorry to hear about your girlfriend, After the Burial. It's a very ugly thing to do. When I was small, most people I knew repeatedly broke my trust so I secluded myself and I didn't have friends for a while. If I had, I would have trusted them but I don't know, I was just alone and depressed. Then atfer a while, things changed.
And I'm truly sorry about your friend's loss too. It must still hurt but I'm sure the sunshine will come back once to your life. I know it's a cliche but It always does.

I want to ask, for those of you who do trust, how do you react when someone breaks your trust?
At first, I get depressed and feel hurt of course. Then, I try to think of the reason they've done it. If I can think of some kind of an excuse, I talk to them about it and see if we can put it to rights or at least sort things out.
If I reach the conclusion - after gathering every information I can about the incident - that he/she probably just did it out of lack of loyalty, then I simply don't say anything and won't trust the person next time. Probably treat them colder and more distant too.
But if the thing they did gets me really angry then I might challenge them, maybe shout a bit...
Anyway, luckily this hasn't happened for a very long time to me, that someone broke my trust.

I have a very hard time trusting people. I didn't used to but *shrug* I learned. The only one person I really trust is my best friend in the world, Mandy. I can tell her things I would never ever tell anyone else. I don't tell my parents anything because, if I have a problem, they always want to either blow it way outa perportion or ignore it. I don't trust my dad in particular because he doesn't like me . I have alot of other good friends but I don't truly trust them because they have either poroved unturstworthy or I'm not as comfortable around them. And there are, of course, alot of things I never tell anyone because I don't trust anyone enough, even Mandy (but that's because of me not here )

I trust myself. That's it. I don't trust anyone outside my own head

This thread needs to be bought back to life, so liiive!~♥

I do not believe in trusting people Humans are self-serving liars, and it is not a bad thing! But it seems foolhardy to expect otherwise of anyone. Why would someone keep you're secret, or be faithful to you, or tell you something, if it served them to do otherwise? So i accept what people say for simplicitys sake, but would never truly believe them

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In order of how much i trust them:
Myself
My best/close friends
My sister Jessica
My parents...

I want to ask, for those of you who do trust, how do you react when someone breaks your trust?
Um. This is hard as it has never happened before... I guess it would depend on how big the secret was. If it was like, really close to my heart and my friend knew that, I'd be quite hurt.

There is only one person I completely, totally, 100% trust, and that would be my boyfriend. I have a very hard time trusting people because of everything that's happened to me. I have everybody separated into "categories"--stranger, acquaintance, casual friend, friend, close friend, and true intimate friend/partner. There's only my boyfriend in the intimate one (in the "inner sanctum" if you will), and at the moment, everybody I know is in the casual friend/friend" range or even farther out than that. I just do not trust people.

I used to trust people a little easier, but because I wasn't sure of where the boundaries should go, I just trusted anybody indiscriminately. That did not work out so well. So now even though it's a little lonely sometimes, I still prefer it this way. There isn't so much opportunity to feel hurt and betrayed.

I think that other people can trust me, especially now that I've learned how to not blurt out random secrets about people. I don't know how many people actually do, though. My boyfriend trusts me.