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We seemed to be headed in the stratosphere as far as the blame games are concerned. Louise, I understand you sympathise with Snape, but then going on to blame James (in part) for Dumbledore's death.... doesn't it kinda look too outlandish?
Oh, I wasn't being serious

Glib remark at the end of a post, that's all. I'm not seriously suggesting that James is to blame for Dumbledore's death! I know I'm a bit off the wall with my theories sometimes, but I don't think I've hit "stratospheric" proportions yet

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From what I can gather, you would like to emphasised that all that Snape's done is somehow not his doing, but should be blamed on someone else.
Yeah, looking back at my previous post, it does rather look that way, doesn't it? No, I'm not implying anyone else is to blame. I agree with you that it's choices at the end of the day, and you can't blame other people for your actions. But (and you knew there was a "but" coming, right?

) that doesn't mean that we can't attempt to
explain a person's actions, which stem from their personality, which in turn stems from experience. Yes, everyone has free will and the ability to exercise it, but you also have to make allowances for the things which have shaped that person. Shaped them into being people who view the world very differently to someone else.
If pushed to say which of the two characters, Harry or Snape, I felt was portrayed in the more realistic manner, I would unhesitantly say Snape. Both characters were abused, both characters had their fair share of hard times - but is it realistic to expect a person to come through such horrendous experiences totally unscathed? Harry does have a fair amount of bitterness within him, as does Snape - but Harry has a target for his aggression in Voldemort. Does Snape have a target? Of course he does. Harry. He can't get at James anymore; he substitutes, which is a perfectly understandable thing to do. I'm not excusing his behaviour, he had the choice to treat Harry better than he was treated, but he chose not to. That's his choice, his error; it's not right, but it's understandable.
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Then Spinjam you go a step ahead and blame James' parents for that?
Well, someone is to blame for James' being a prat. Someone made him egotistical. He was an only child, it's conceivable that he may have been spoiled, for example. Again, James had choices. He could have chosen not to bully Snape. He didn't make that choice. He showed no empathy or understanding, no concept of understanding 'do as you would be done by' as his son does - to his credit. No, it is not acceptable to simply brush James' actions away as "well, he's 15, they're all like that at that age". Does that undo the obviously grevious psychological harm that it did to Snape? Saying they were only fifteen doesn't negate the humiliation. It doesn't negate the feelings. It provides a reason for them, yes, just as Snape's background provides a reason for his behaviour, but it does not excuse it. Not all 15 year olds are like that. James and Sirius were, Snape probably was to some extent to - but Lupin wasn't. Lupin knew they were doing wrong. Lupin was just powerless to do anything about it because he felt vulnerable for his own reasons.
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There were several other death eaters who openly renounced Tom on his downfall and projected a respectable face and Tom had no problems whatsoever accepting them back. Nothing stopped Snape from doing so, or perhaps those reasons are not important enough in the scheme of things, am I right?
Ah, but that's going down the 'is-Snape-guilty' route...I believe he was acting under Dumbledore's orders because he is inherently good. He didn't return to Voldemort, though he could have, because he chose not to - he chose to wait for Dumbledore's say-so. If I'm wrong, I'm wrong...so be it. But I would be absolutely gutted that a wonderful opportunity to show Snape as an 'antithetical Harry' - someone who may have followed a slightly different path to the same end goal. He'd be just another bad-guy.
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I could put up a thousand arguments in favour of James behaviour
The outlandish one notwithstanding, I would love to hear some explanations for James' hatred of Snape; "because he exists" doesn't count though

Why did James hate Snape so much? Why did he choose to bully, belittle and humilate him?
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Louise one more thing, I understand about you not liking James/Lily because it reminds you of Harry/Ginny. But I would like to believe that there's is nothing in common between the two ships except for Potter, Messy hair, Glasses and Red Hair. In fact Lily doesn't even have the same hair as Ginny. Lily was described as having dark red hair (sounds much closer to brown ) than "flaming red" of Ginny. There is no similarity between the two girls either. Like I said, Harry/Ginny is nothing but a manifestation of a hero-worship and dreams of a young girl come true. James/Lily on the other hand, is a perfect example of two people growing into love. Harry/Ginny (eegh) can never ever compare with James/Lily and thank god for that.
I concur, but you weren't here at the end of the shipping wars

I was, and I emerged rather bloody and full of a rather Snape-like loathing of even the mere mention of any similarity between the two. I don't see it myself, unless relationships in the wizarding world are based on hair colour and glasses. I really find the concept of them "growing into love" to be something of an assumption. We have seen absolutely nothing to show that they "grew" into anything. If they did, it happened very, very quickly, within the space of two, possibly four years. For two of which they wouldn't have been in school anyway. Lily hated him after the OWLs, so I would love to know what prompted the change of heart. Could anyone really be attracted to someone who is so callously disregarding of another person's feelings? Yes, even at the age of 15. Unless Lily is as shallow as Ginny and is attracted to good looking Quidditch players, of course. Now there's a similarity between the ships for you

Something fundamental must have happened to change her opinion of him. Do we know when the tricking-Snape-into-the-shack incident occured? Before or after the OWL's? Before, the fundamental thing could have been simply that (which, if it is, is rather pathetic...it was hardly life changing). After, then there must have been something else.
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I don't necessarily like the choices that he makes, but that doesn't mean I can't be sympathetic towards his character.
Ditto