Hey guys (girls) my first question is if a girl is talking to you and they say /your their type but they're not attracted to you/ and you're a kid thats not that popular and often gets made fun of, are they just denying liking you or do you think they're serious?

Next question If you really like a girl (like really really like them where you think about them all the time and even know the color of their eyes) then how do you know if they like you? and how do you ask a girl to go out with you without sounding desperate and having good chances?

Well, if you're a boy who's sort of shy; but you still feel that you really like a girl, then what you have to do is to find out if they feel the same way about you. Try to make friends with her first. That way you can really get to know her before you jump to conclusions or do something drastic. Getting to know her may also help you to make a definate decision about how you really feel.

Second, if a girl tells you that you're her type, then that might mean you have a chance, but there's just one little thing that you have to change about yourself. If you really would like this girl to like you, then you should try to find out what it is about you that she is still not convinced about.

I could go on and on, but I think I'd just end up boring you with all the infinite details of the female mind and the way to conquer her heart/interest. So I must leave you with this to think about. Hope I was helpful.

~Veritaserum14~

If a girl says anything about your social status, and not yourself, then they really aren't that interested in you as a person, but more of a "Hey, look at my cool new boyfriend everyone" like some sort of designer goods.

If they say you're their type but not attracted to them, then I'd just be hugely confused ... ask them to be more specific if this happens .. i.e. Is it my looks you like and my personality you don't, or vice versa?

bleh.

Well I don't really feel comfortable asking a girl what she thinks about me, or asking them out because I'm not aloud to date till I'm fifteen and I'm only twelve and I've never had a girlfriend so iI don't know that much about this kind of thing. Plus I'm really shy. Besides I don't want to ask a girl out till I have a job so I could take them out on a date every once in a while. But do you guys have any advice on how to find out if they like me? If I find out that she likes me by the end of the school year then I will think it over during the summer and then probably ask them out next year. Besides my parents never said i couldn't go out with someone, they only said that my sister couldn't any more cause she has had like 25 boyfriends in the last year. I really need your advice so keep giving it!

Girls like guys who have a good sense of humor, completely honest and someone they can trust once in a while. Well that's the kind of guys I like. If you really like this girl then I should say that try and be her friend and if she needs help in any way then help her out. Secondly if you want to know what the girl likes in you, but still isn't attracted then just ask because if you ask her then she would definetely give you atleast a hint of why she isn't attracted to you and maybe you could improve on it. If you just wait for someone else to find out for you then you will never exactly know why she isn't attracted to you. Trust me on this.

Cheers

Namra

The girls I know who have told this to a guy were actually saying, "You are a nice guy, and I don't want to hurt you, but I am not interested."


I am not trying to be cruel here, but take a moment to think. If she likes you now, what makes you think she would still like you in three months? Not having any contact with people tends to make them forget you.

I totally agree with that. A guy used to like my best friend and my friend liked him as well, but when she was waiting for him to ask her out, he thought of asking her after half-term holiday. During the half-term my friend found someone else who asked her out and she said yes because she thought the other guy didn't like her anymore. So when the guy came to school to ask my friend out she was already with someone else and that guy blew his chances.

What I'm trying to say is that listen to me and everyone else on this site and if that girl likes you as well ask her out before it's too late.

Cheers

Namra

Well it all seems that simple from my earlier post but the truth is its not. You see I don't know wich girl I like more or wich one i'd have better chances with out of the two that I like and i don't want to ask one and then ask the other because then I'd seem like a jerk so...
I dont know wich to ask!

If you really want to know this from a girl's point of view:

I would get to know both of them better before actually doing anything. Be friendly, show them that you really want to know how they feel about you. When they know this-the choice will be a lot more simple to make.

Remember nothing is easy... (it's everything else that's difficult)
Get it?
~Veritaserum14~

Well I already know them both pretty well, one is blonde, has hazel eyes, is pretty and smart, the other is brunet, has brown eyes, average intelligence, and is pretty also. the blonde I know is very ecstatic over a guy, but the other just broke up with a guy, but the other day after dating for two days. I don't know wether he just wasn't someone she liked or if she just is one of those people who likes to break up with guys just to be rude, but I don't think she's that kind of girl. I hang out with the brunet a lot more and she seems to like me more but I like the other more, (I think) I've even started writing a book in dedication to her. I most probably have better chances with the brunet and I know her better but I don't know if thats something I should make my choice on or not.

Hey just to let you know, I'm not using the color of their hair when I mention them because I'm objectifying them, it's because I don't think it appropriate to mention their names online.

most of the time [not all!], sideways glances and leaning in are giveaways.

I think the brunet likes me because of something that she did on thursday. the teacher was putting in a movie cause it was the last day of school and we were placing our chairs in various spots i the room to watch the movie and she sat down next to me. Then she kind of scooted her chair closer to me when she thought I wasn't paying attention. So I'll probably ask her out next time I see her.

Alas a thread dedicated to the wide mysteries of the female mind! Beware in the future this thread might give a few guys a massive headache!

Ok Other Boy Who Lived liking two girls at the same time is a real pain in the butt! But from what you've written there is a better chance that the brunette likes you. It is a wise choice to go for the brunette because you mentioned that the blonde is drooling over another fellow right? I just have a question for you. Are you asking this girl out just because you want to have a girlfriend or are there real feelings there? You stated before that you liked the blonde better. Personally I don't think it would be fair to either of you if you asked her out just because. But hey thats just me meddling in things that aren't of my concern.

Ok males of this nice thread. Knowing if a girl likes you is a lot easier than knowing when a guy likes a girl! We girls (most not all) are pretty obvious when we like a guy. More like our friends are pretty obvious *shakes head*. A huge hint on whether a girl likes you or not is to see how her friends act around you. I had a friend who'd nudge me every time the guy I liked walked into the room. Mind I never told my friend ever again who I liked. Most girls if not all seemed to be strangely aware of what they look like if a guy they like is present. This doesn't apply to messy girls like me because I always look the same seeing as I believe that if a guy is going to like me then he has to like my messy ponys and pencil pull up with my dorky glasses.

So as you can see knowing whether a girl likes you or not is pretty easy to know. Of course there are exceptions and that is why you guys have us

-Stef

Well I don't want to ask her out just because i want a girfriend because there is part of me that really doesn't. The reason I want to ask her out is because I seem (to myself) to be much happier when I'm around her. We have lots in common with each other: we both like rock (a thing thats not that popular in my neighborhood), we're both averagely athletic, and we both hang out with the same crowd of people, to name but a few thing we have in common.
So that answers your question but I never notic her friends giggling or anything else obvious like that when I come in their vicinity.

Hey! You've got yourself a really huge problem, eh? Girls can be so complicated sometimes. But not only them, guys can often be like that. But if you like her, then you should do something about it. If you're afraid to be rejected for asking her out try other stuff first, like sharing things with her (CDs, homework and things like that), splending time together, talking in order to get closer to her. But if you feel you're already close enough you should take your chance and try to ask her out. Be brave! and listen to your heart

And don't be afraid to be rejected because you're not popular enough. There are girls out there who are not that interested in popularity.

Good luck!

I admire your confidence in me madie but I havent seen her in a while so I don't know if I'll get a chance for a few days or even a week. Fany monkey, I only like the blonde for her looks and intelligence.

Well, as long as you like Blondie for her looks AND intelligence, that's a good sign. If you only liked her for her looks, then I'd suggest you rethink this situation.

You said that last week was the last day of school? In my opinion, take advantage of the summer break and try to get to know both better. Perhaps organize a group thing to a water park or miniature golf or something and include one of the girls, then arrange another activity and invite the other. I'm quite a bit older than high school, but some of my best times were during the summer between school terms. It was more relaxed and you didn't have all the cliques to worry about.

Some of the guys I dated started out as friends just hanging out. The big thing is to be yourself. If you're not, she'll see through it and won't be comfortable around you... believe me, we CAN tell!

On a final note... what's the rush to "date" somebody. Perhaps I don't know what your definition of "date" is, but I see it as one guy and one girl seeing each other exclusively. Personally, I think you need to go out with someone more than a couple of times before deciding if you're dating. When I was in junior high we "went with each other" which boiled down to being "boyfriend/girlfriend" based solely on superficial things, and the most you went out was to hang out at school or a school function, pass notes to each other and maybe hold hands or sneak a kiss. If you're really interested in dating and actually going out with someone, then get to know her and see where it leads.

Oh, as far as how you can tell if a girl likes you... from what I can gather about your age group (or guess at) I'd say if she shows interest in you and takes the time to talk to you or acknowledge you then that's a good sign. If she acts like you don't exist or doesn't seem to know if you've come into or left a room, then she's probably not interested. That's when you try the group activity thing and invite her along (and don't invite any rivals )

Good luck!
CG