you guys want some guy trouble? (sorry for the massive post)

I've got a guy friend, whos liked me since November (as he says) And I don't really like him back. Sometimes he tells me he has stopped liking me, and so I'm like alright, and i talk about guys or actors that i like and then he gets angry. And then he tells me he was lying and blah blah blah. And then he goes out with other girls and is STILL angry when I talk about other guys! It's really frustrating. And we get into MASSIVE fights over it. I mean, he talks about hot girls around me. That shouldn't be allowed!

But thats not even close to whats happening now. He's friends with this sixth grader named Satchel. Who I like a lot (trust me, it's not weird...theres about fifty other girls in my grade who like him) and I always wanted to get to know him (because we had a lot of the same interests) and so I asked Aron (that's my guy friend name) if i could hang out with him on the day he was hanging out with Satchel, and he says yes. So i go and he says satchel "couldn't come", so we hang out alone.

And so, it's later in the day, and i'm with Mari and Abby and my brother was having a party, so we decided to invite Aron over, who brings Satchel. Anyway, it was SOO much fun. Satchel is REALLY nice. And so I wanted to do it again. And I instant message aron and i said lets do it again next week. And then i asked: are you free next week? And he says maybe. And then i ask is satchel free next week, and he goes: this is all about satchel isn't it. I mean COME ON! I asked about him first! So then we get into this HUUUUGE fight. He thinks i'm obsessed with Satchel. And he thinks that i only like Satchel because he's cute, and that i think he's ugly and won't go out with him because he's ugly. Which isn't true, i've explained me reasonings SEVERAL times.

So anyway, the next day, we get into ANOTHER fight about satchel. And he says i have to choose whether to hang out with him or satchel. Which is BEYOND stupid. And i kept saying why can't i just have you both? And he was like nope, sorry, you have to choose. And so i kept saying both and then he says i can hang out with satchel, but he's not coming. And i literally BEGGED him to come. And he said no. So then i said, fine don't come. And then he's like, well I'm hanging out with satchel so you can't hang out with him this week. And then i said, fine, next week. And he said he was hanging out with him then also. And i kept asking why, and he wouldn't tell me, he just kept denying he was jealous.

And now, we fight like every day over it, and he's being REALLY stupid and I just want another day like that where we all hung out. And he won't let me. and I have NO idea what to do. He doesn't seem to be happy unless I date him, and I don't really want to. And when he asks why, I say i dont want to date now, (i'm only 13) and he won't respect that. He thinks i'm weird or something. And he's like what, are you immature or something? (Because i call him immature when we fight) and it's bothering me, because maybe i'm just not ready for all that stuff. And he makes me uncomfortable about it.

There are SO many problems i'm having with him, that sometimes i'd never met him. He's making my days so much harder now. And he kept saying that he REALLY likes me a LOT, and he can't stop, and it was a little scary. NO guy has ever liked me, and now he's a little crazy about it. Shouldn't I be flattered or something?

anyway, thats just a few of our problems. My whole grade thinks we're going out in secret. They used to ask us if we were going out and we kept saying no. And that was like the big thing. And now they tell us we fight like married couple, which is SO annoying. I mean even the sub was like awww you guys are so cute together. And all my friends think we'd be cute together. I feel like i'm the only one stopping this. I feel so guilty sometimes, but i can't force myself to like him.

There ya go. I'm FULL with problems with him.

I'm going to give some advice that someone gave to me once, and, at the time, I thought they were an idiot. Later, I came to realize they were right, and really very wise.

In ten years you won't even talk to these people.

Now, this is not true in every case. But as you grow up and get older, even the best of friends often find different interests, make other friends who share those interests and gradually grow apart. You may still think of each other as friends, but when you do see them, years later, it is often an awkward meeting because you've changed so much since the last time you spoke.

Basically, what may seem like huge trials and tribulations now end up having little or no significance on the rest of your life.

If you can remember that, you may make it through your teenage years with a shred of sanity and a minimal number of suicidal thoughts.

Another philosophy I like to remind myself of when something particularly bad happens to me is this: "Everything always works out exactly as it should."

Now, this is not an excuse to sit idly by and watch the world pass. Far from it. If something happens that you do not like you can do one of two things. Curl up in a ball and hope to die, or get up off your rear and do something about it. If you try and you fail, it wasn't meant to work out that way. Just ask yourself when it's over, "Did I do everything I could?" If the answer is "Yes" then you can put it behind you and never think on it again. If the answer is "No" remember it always, but do not dwell on it. Just use it as a reminder the next time a situation arises, and it will goad you to try harder.

Of course, it's always a good policy not to stick your nose in where it isn't wanted too. So the best advice I can give anyone on trying to settle fights between other people is "Let them work it out themselves, and be there to comfort them when it's over."

Just some general advice on Life, the Universe and Everything. (Which book I happen to be reading just now. )

HPfreak, i think girls are a mrstery, if you call a girl the next day you seem desperate, always wait at least four days after the date, then call, providing you have her number.

I feel for you Kipsy, I really do, it sounds like you're in a tricky situation, and being 13 well it's rather young to start dating, and if your not ready to start doing things like that then you should be proud of yourself not to be falling for peer pressure. I'm 19 (so old!) and the idea of a proper commited relationship, with living together and stuff still terrifies me, but i know couples (my age) who have been going out for 2, even 4 years!

Also i agree with LLtWK, in ten years time these people will be history. For example, During my last year of school, me and my mates were all like. 'Oh we so have to stay in touch, yada yada yada....'

Barely 2 years out of school, do i speak to these people who we swore to stay in touch with. Um....no, would be the answer, infact they actually bore me now, i went out to the wilderness and made new friends at college and stuff, and do lots of political stuff which means i get to meet politicians (ooo fun--NB sarcasm) and these girls/guys who i went to school with are not doing anything and they're still in the same circle of friends. I still speak to my best mate from school but we're not so close any more (that's cos she's off doing her army thing though)

Any way, I know that this guy is a good mate of yours Kipsy, and it does seem like you're trying to do your best, but (now i know this seems harsh, and it's not your fault) maybe he finds it hard being your friend, looking at you everyday, knowing he won't be able to be with you, and you 'firting' (as he might see it) with his mate might make him insane with jealousy, and he might not be able to stop it.

I know you've probably tried this, but just sit him down with a coffee, (or a juice) and explain that you don't feel ready for a relationship yet, and when he's older, he'll look back and see that 13 is awfully young (i thought i was really old at 13, and should have a BF by now) but you still want to be friends with him, because you (sorry for the cheesiness) value his friendship and like him a a person (when you're not arguing).

If he doesn't except that then, maybe he's a lost cause, which might be mean, but you can't function as mates if you're fighting with him, and you can't go out with someone because you want to stay mates with him, because in the long run, that will hurt him more.. But best of luck!!!

*looks up.* is any of that even relivent?

Kipsy, no-one has the right to force to do something you don't want to do, especially if your not ready for it.

Tell him you like him as a friend and if he can't accept that then thats his problem and he will have to deal with it.

If you like this Satchel (I hope i spelt it right), as just a friend or more it doesn't matter, then find him at school or something and get contact details yourself instead, that way you won't have to rely on your friend and he might realise that he can't dictate your life and who you do or do not like.

It is your life not your friends, so take control of it!

I have a problem it's I am failing 3 of my classes and thats half my classes and well it's almost time for school to be over in 2 weeks what should I do. Well first I know it will be a good idea not to be on the computer and do my work just I get do distracted I give up or I get bored and than I get on the computer today I stayed from school today cause I felt really sick I know I should of used that time to finish some work but I fell asleep and well I got bored right now so I got on the computer!!!

i sorta really really like satchel now..... and aron says he's not jealous, but he obviously is. i try and not talk about satchel a lot but it's really hard. i've hung out with him more rececntly and talked to him on the computer, so i've gotten to know him and he's REALLY nice. and my friends are calling my obsessed, but i can't help it. i just REALLY like him. i wanted to invite them both over for an end of the year party thing, and now arons saying he won't come, and i haven't asked satchel yet, but i'm having doubts about the whole thing....what should i do?

Kipsy, invite them both anyway, if aron doesn't want to go, well thats his problem isn't it, and his loss. You'd have done your part then, so it will be up to him to do what he wants to do.

If he still wants you as a friend at the very least, he will put his jealousy aside and go anyway.

Do any of you people have ideas how I can convince my mom to keep her job because she is thinking of quitting. She is like th eonly tax preparer for Hispanic people and if she quits there will be like no one. Any ideas?

I've never been in that situation before, slytherinlvr, and it seems like a tricky one to be in...
Try to tell her how proud you are of her if she keeps the job. Tell her it means a lot to you if she keeps it.
Is there in particular reason she is quitting? I don't mean to pry, it's just if it is a mighty good excuse she may find it in her best interest to quit.

I have a problem iam addicted to red bulls and umm thats it.lol

and slytherinlvr tell your mom to keep her job if it is really worrying just tell her make her think about your needs too not just hers.

I had surgery monday, so now i cant walk. I'm sitting here alone cause my dad and sis are driving to a different sate and wont be back 'till monday, and my mom works nights, and i'm thirsty....

I give you my sympathy!

Unfortunately there's not much else i can do!

Guys...can I have some advice? Okay, I just moved to a new state this year, and a new school. I thought it would be like other schools, with mean popular kids, and really nice un popular kids. I was wrong. The popular kids turned out to be really nice, and everyone else wasn't. I have always been really unpopular, but here I'm being accepted. I wa even invited to two popular parties, and to sleepover at a popular girl's house. But there are several problems. 1. There's a popular guy I really like. He's like really nice to me and all, but I think he's got problems. When I watch him, he has problems wth people touching him, and gets angry, and even though he has a great sense of humor takes everything too seriously. 2. I don't think he likes me, but I really like him, and get a ll nervous around him. I mean, I don't like him because he's popular. I like him because he's sweet, nice, talented, and funny. I know he'd never like me, every girl likes him, and he can have his choice.

Okay...I've got a problem. School just closed and I finished eighth grade I left a school full of people I've known since pre school and I was really populer. Now I've moved to a new city and I'm not very good around new people. And I really am not used to being alone how am I supposed to ajust? Not to mention this is the first time I've ever moved from a house I've lived in my whole life...SOMEBODY HELP!!

kool kat,
You seem to have it pretty much made...all except the boy problem...wreaking havoc in your life, eh? .
My advice: You seem to understand him more that most girls might. You have observed that he has problems being touched, and anger issues. This is important. He may be looking for someone like you, someone that cares enough to look beyond his looks and popularity to see someone that may need help. Don't give-up on him this soon, he may come around when he realizes that you like and care for him. In the meanwhile though, try just talking to him and that may be all that it takes. Maybe not. You have to patient, and if he's not the one there's more fish in the sea!

harrysgirl,
Brutal situation, I agree, especially since you're going to be a freshman this year...
My advice: Apparently you do have a niche for attracting people or you wouldn't be so popular , so don't be so harsh on yourself saying your not good around new people. Nerves sometimes get where our mouths are, I agree. Just keep being who you are and someone will accept you. Teenagers aren't that heartless... ...
Don't worry too much about it, you'll be taken as who you are. Many new kids flood into high schools every year and not every one of their stories are filled with doom and gloom. Look up, be sweet, and be yourself, and you'll go somewhere!

Yeah, maybe things will get better. I'm just really worried about him. I mean this is my first real big crush, and he's really a great guy after all!

Hey guys, lets get this thread on track! Anyone need advice? Certainly someone out there does. I'll be waiting when you do!

Edit: Whoa guys, I totally didn't notice the post above this was mine. So sorry, guys!

I have a prob. My parents have been fighting and arguing a lot lately. Last night my dad sleptut in our travel trailer. My parents aren't talking to each other. Me and my four sibilings are allowed to go and talk to my dad. Just about half an hour ago I found out that my parents are going to seperate. I don't thin kmy dad knows because I asked my mom if they were getting divorced and she said that they were going to get seperated. My dad is going to live in the trailer for a while til they can get to a place where he will move out. I have spent like two whole days in my pajamas and those two days have been spent crying. I have no clue what to do. I can tell that my parents are heading for divorce. I know my dad doesn't want to get a divoce but I think my mom does. I have told my older borhter this but not my three younger sibilings because I don't want them to get angry. Any know anything that I can do? Maybe even someting to take my mind off things.

Aww you poor thing! I offer you a hug! Unfortuanly i don't really know what you're going through as my parents aren't divorved and happily married.

But i can offer my sympathy nonetheless! You just have to remember that both your parents love you and your siblings very much and the reason they are seperating has nothing to do with you.

I suspect that things will be hard for a while and take some getting used to, but remember that your parents will probably be happier in the long run.

You could try talking to your mum or dad about how your upset, maybe a family friend or teacher (if during termtime) I don't know if they have any thing like this where you are. But here in the UK we have something called 'Childline' where kids can talk to train volunteers about any problems they may have no matter what the size, so maybe you could look into that and they could give you some advice.

The classic thing you hear all the time is to try and take up a new hobby, drawing and the like. Mabye you could write some Harry Potter fanfics if you want to take your mind off things.

Best of luck!

Oh! Okay, I'll add my advice as well. This is obviously a rough time. But don't be afraid to be upset, cry. If you want. But remember, you are still a family. You still have a mom, a dad, and siblings. Just because your parents are no longer family, it doesn't mean you're not still family with them, and them with you. Do not blame yourself. This is comletely your parents problem, not yours. As for your younger siblings, ask your mom to talk to them. It will be easier that way. Ad just try and have fun, read a book, watch a movie with your sibs. Find a new hobby. It will be okay.

Okay, I have a problem as well. This year I will be starting my seventh grade year at school. But, I don't have many friends because I'm like Hermione: a nerd with no times for friends, who is shy and keeps to herself. How do I make friends, and still have time for classes, class plays, chorus, and who knows what else. I have those and honors Language arts and possibly honors math, and extra chorus. I am extremely scared of what the year will bring. I only have 2-3 study halls a week. Help, please. I'm beginning to dread this year.

Thanks for your advice. My parents have decided to try and work things out and see if that helps. I hope that it does.

kool kat, maybe you could try and make some friends during your luch hour or when you have study hall. If not then you can talk to your classmates during class and all of the extra things you are doind. Chance are that if you talk to some of the people in your honors classes and your extra chorus they will want to be friends with you. Find people who have some of the same interest as you. That is all I can think if doing.

I hope so, too! Thanks, yes, I kind of just figured that out. The only problem is I'm unbeleivably shy, but I'll get over that. Maybe join a club or two.

Aw, I've always been pretty quiet and stuff in school too, kool kat... I mean, I've gotten slightly more outgoing since tenth grade, but I've never had loads of friends or anything. You sound a lot like me in seventh grade, actually -- you sound really committed to your activities (plays, chorus, etc.), you're taking honors classes, you've got very few free periods, and you're a bit nervous about what the year will bring. I can totally empathize with that.

In my experience, I've found that it really isn't necessary to have too many friends. I've got four classmates, two people who don't live in my town, my sister, and a girl two years younger than I am who I consider my really close friends... and that's basically all that I need. I have people in my classes with whom I like to talk about schoolwork, Harry Potter, and other stuff, but I don't feel the need to have a whole crowd with whom I can hang out on weekends or anything. Just be happy with the friends you've got, and yeah, clubs and other activities are a great way to meet new people!

Thanks, Allie! Yes, I have several great friends, and that's enough. Of course, I'll be open to making more. I may go for art or drama club. I'm a very friendly person, and easy to get along with, so I have several more kind of casual friends as well. As for classes and plays, I'm just going to have to do my best. Last year I wasn't challenged enough, and had too much free time, even with extra chourus and plays, so it's good to have a challenge!

slytherinlvr - my parents split up when I was 18 - right in the middle of my exams. Great timing, huh? I know it seems like the end of the world when it's happening, but believe me, in the long run, if they really don't get on then having them split up is far better than listening to the rows all the time because they're just going to makes themselves and everyone around them miserable. If there's truly something still there, they'll try and make a go of it and by the sounds of it, that's what they're going to try to do now so I really wish you and them the very best. I hope it works out.

Kat - it's far better to have a few very good friends you can rely on than be the most popular girl in the school and be surrounded by shallow people who are only interested in you because you're 'cool'. Trust me...I tried to keep two groups of friends going when I was in school...one group wasn't exactly top feeder, but they were pretty popular and I, very shallowly I admit, enjoyed being with them because of the attention I got. Then there was the other group - my 'real' friends - they were really there for me when my parents split up and I felt far more comfortable being with them than I did with the others and eventually, I made the right decision and I'm still in touch with a lot of them today. School can be a tough time with all the work and exams and decisions and growing up and everything else you need to do, so it's important to keep real friends around you. Don't worry about being popular or having loads of friends - that's nice, but ultimately, as I said, it's far better to have just two or three friends that you can really rely on who'll always be there for you and it sounds as though you have that, so you have nothing to worry about.

Dana's got it right on both counts. While she's in a better position to advise you about parents getting divorced, given she's actually lived through it. It happened to one of my friends a few years back and It was horrible for him at the time. You really have to rely on your friends, your real friends at that time. Dont be afraid to cry, dont be afraid to lash out if you need to, because if its to your real friends they won't care, and they'll understand what your'e going through. Likewise, i hope it works out for all of you, i really do. Chin up and try and keep a smile on your face

Kat i'm going to mirror what everyone else has said. Its not about being the most popular kid in school, thats not important. When i was younger i was the scapegoat for everyone and was bullied quite horribly at times, but the important thing is to keep a few genuine people with you at all times. That to me is the difference between the false hypocrits who made up the "cool people" and the geuine people who i'm still friends with today, and who i see whenever i can, talk to them all the time, and love them all like brothers and sisters. I left school 4 years ago and despite being all over the country now we're still very close. There's about 8 of us, but numbers arent important really in the grand scheme of things, the important thing is that you keep the close ones right by you, and trust me you'll be fine! Im really shy too, or at least i always used to be, but just be yourself and people will love you or not, but its the ones that love you that you want to be friends with anyway. Not the ones who dont really care about you! Besides you've always got the population of VTM to chat to! You'll be fine!

I have a silly problem. See well i like this guy. Firstly he turned out to be a jerk at the end of the year, he pretended i didnt exsist though before that we were friends.

On MSN now when we chat he says stuff such as when i say be right back, he floods me with are you back yet?
And finally i say i am back, happy now?
He goes:
Maybe
Maybe not
Maybe very

by the way, still not "JKing" (other words not just kidding)
I don't want to like him i want him out of my mind, but he acts like he suddenly has some sort of thing for me or wants to be my friend again. But i already know what he is like, when he is with his friends he will just ignore me.

How can i get him off my mind? How can i not go running back to a silly crush that won't happen (trust me...i know it wont)

thank you

Hmm... Raven he sounds like an extraordinarily insecure person to me. I think he just feels he needs to act that way to keep you guessing, to make you feel like there might be more feelings on his part. In reality I think he likes the fact that you like him, he needs it even, so he's offering you a bit of incentive without making any firm commitment himself He sounds like a drop-kick (sorry), but I really dont have a lot of respect for people who manipulate others to fulfill their own needy insecureties. I think your overall gut feeling is absolutely correct... If it was me I'd slam him for being such a jerk, but if you're not comfortable with confrontation then maybe stop giving him so much of your time, as soon as he starts to play games like that tell him you have to go and put yourself on away ar something. He'll get the hint eventually. Goodluck mate

Alright thanks
Thats awesome advice. I guess when school hits i hope he just stays away from me
Cause he usually hangs out with my friends, but i told them i dislike him now so i think they will help me out. And trust me...i am not uncomfortable with confrontation, his best friend called me anerexic (i am not eat more then most i am just really thin) so i told him to shut up he didn't stop so i punched him really hard in the arm. Apparently it bruised, and thats when i didn't know how to control my anger

Sorry, I'm not that great at giving advice but I have a problem of my own, so any advice would be greatly appreciated
First off, I am extremely insecure, I care a lot about what people think, it's getting quite bad. See, I guess I'm popular at school within my class, I get good grades but I'm not too nerdy, and I'm really social. But this year, my school is switching around classes, so me and two of my friends are going to another homeroom, I'll have half of my classes with my old class and half of them with my new one. See in my new one though, there are all the popular girls with the expensive tshirts and designer bags, and even though I know they're mean, I really want them to like me. Like really bad. Most people tell me that being popular with designer clothes isn't all it's cracked up to be, and that I should be myself, but I can't help it. I'm a nice person and all, but I want them badly to like me even if they are mean.
What should I do?

Hey verona. I'll try and advise you as best i can.

I know exactly what you mean about being insecure, im the same way, or at least i used to be when i was at school. Its something i think most people go through at one point or another, so your by no means unusual. My next advice will mirror what i said to Kat earlier in this thread. Being popular with all the expensive stuff is really not the most important thing in your life. You really just need to be yourself. If the popular girls dont want to know you for being yourself then to be honest with you, they'r not really worth knowing. You'll be happier that way being around people who really want to know you rather than the popular people who are so superficial its not even worth bothering with. If they'r that mean its not worth your time and effort to be around people who are just mean to people. In time you'll come to realise that, but trust me, just be yourself and the genuine people will come to you, and thats all you really need anyway!

take care, hope it all works out for ya

Thanks for the advice! It really helps a lot. It was nice of you to help me out I think I'll be fine, I'm just you know at that stage where you are insecure

No worries Verona, I know just what you mean as i went through the same stage with, mostly the same insecurities a few years ago.

Happy to help ya out!

Oh another problem on my hands *shakes head*
Well today was the first day back at school. So i saw my crush today. Firstly i must say that i was checking an older e-mail an account and last month he sent me an e-mail saying sorry which was very sweet. NOW on to the problem, when my crush walked into homeroom...his hair was grown out, he had braces, and was tanned. I immeditally thought "wow...he looks well really hot!"

I wanted to say hey but i started to choke (metaforically) and started to freak out and stayed quiet. I am never like this. I started getting nervous around him, i mean his smile is so...*sighs* cute. But he is the nice guy i always knew. I want to talk to him more and also become a friend. THough again, i am begining to get all nervous around him. What should i do?

Thats the worst part about having aboyfriend...no more crushes...*sigh*.
Well here is what i would do, and it's worked ok for me.

Just ask him a quesiton, about anything. School work, a sport, if he did anything fun over summer...idea


inster cute boys name
"Hey ______________________! How are you? I haven't seen you in forever. What did you do this summer?"

Then he talks, and asks you what you did. tell him. Then pick out something he said he did and say something like

"You ________. That sounds so cool. i wish i could do that.....ect.ect.ect."
Guys like to feel manly and like they can do something special. subtle flattery is best.

Then you won't be so embaressed and no awkward silences....hopefully. Just pick out a cute outift, do your hair. it helps confidence is everything!!

either that email him a respnse to his email. internet is so easy. you can't get as embaressed. then when he gets it chances are he'll approach you!

alright i defiently will

I am going to send an e-mail as we speak!

Thank you

Can I have advice? Today was my first day at (eek) school. I'm in 7th grade, and this year am taking 8th grade math, last year I took 6th grade math. So now, they're talking about a bunch of stuff I never heard of, and expect me to know it. Also, this year my team was littlerally butchered. There are ony several other people on my team this year that were there last year. I really miss all of my friends! And sinc I'm back at school do you guys have any advice for making new friends and talking to my crush?

Hey Kat, congrats on your first day back to school! With regards to your math, which I'm sure you're great at, you should probably ask a teacher or maybe a parent or an older brother or sister for help if you get confused. Making new friends is pretty hard sometimes, I know...but you come across as a very friendly kind of person. I don't know about you, but I've found that smiling at people really gets their attention- like if they glance at you and you just happen to be looking that way and you smile, it would make the other person want to get to know you, and odds are they'll probably introduce themselves to you. That's how I made the majority of my friends in High School- as for your crush (best of luck, by the way) it's always a good idea to be friendly with him, as well. And his friends, while you're at it. We all know you're a very nice person, so definitely let him see that side of you. If you do that, there's no way he couldn't like you. Don't ever be embarrassed to let a guy see how smart you are- you can't go wrong with that- it earns respect. My brain is rather addled- I'm quite tired. But always keep in mind all your pals here support you! xox

Thanks, Gin. Yeah, today I tried to be very friendly to everyone, and assisted several new kids in my grade. I'm dreadfully shy, and even though I have one class with my crush, I haven't talked to him yet! Tommorow for sure! I like that idea, to smile. I always wrm up to someone when they smile to me! And about math, I've always excelled, but I think it's good I'm being faced with a challenge! I'll just try my best, and I asked, and my dad offered to help! Thank you so much!

Hey.. im new here so im not used to all this but i have a question i would like to ask.. i have like this guynnow for a year but he think he is too good for me. i will admitt im not the best looking girl in the school but does anybody have some advice???

Hiya!

OK, I'm not very good at giving advice, but here's what I think. Never think a guy is too good for you. You're good enough to be with any guy you like. If the guy thinks he's too good for you, maybe he's not worth it. He should be able to realize all the good in you. Are you both friends?

I said I wasn't good at giving advice, maybe this isn't< of any help, but that's what I think.

Ok, i need a little advice. There is this guy at my school that i like. I will call him "Will". all of my friends think that "will" likes me. We are really good friends and hang out all the time outside of school. He takes really good care of me as well. The thing is is that I think he may want to go out with me. I want to go out with him but at the same time i don't because everyone who has gone out with him now hates him. I don't ever want to hate him. That and a few of my friends would hate me because they like him. Anyone got any advice for me?

OK, here goes what I think again.

I quite understand how you feel. I had a similar situation at my last year at elementary school(which here in Spain ended when you were 14, though that's changed now). I'd liked this guy as far as I could remember, it was something like a crush that came and went with the wind. At teh end of the year, I had a feeling he liked me, and I talked to a friend of mine who was crazy about him and told here that if I had the chance to go out with him I would, because I'd liked him for so long. So here's what I think you've got to do. If you really want to go out with him, you should maybe just talk to your friends and explain the situation to them, tell them how you feel... They should really understand, because if it's you that he likes and not them, why should you let the opportunity pass you by if they're not going to have it, at least not now? Better grasp it if you really want to, because it's you who's got the chance, and if you don't take it, your friends aren't going to be favoured by it.

Now, on the hate thing, I think it all depends on how it goes. Maybe it's because of the way he treats the girls he goes out with. Maybe he's a great friend but doesn't know how to treat a girl when he goes out with her. However, every relationship is different. Every guy(and girl of course) treats each of the persons they go out with in a different way, it all depends on how much you care about them. So maybe going out with him won't lead to hate, neccesarily. It may lead to something beautiful or it may not work out and you both may be able to still be friends, but if you don't try it, you will never know. And don't let others' opinions and stories guide your decisions, it is something you've got to decide for yourself.

Hope that helped.

About the hate thing. You said that it might all depend on how he treats the girl. We aren't even going out but anyone who saw us together in public would think that we are. He always has his arm around me, he is always hugging me, when we are sitting together at the park or something he always lays his head in my lap and lets me play with his hair, he always makes sure I get where I am going safely. We are friends but anyone who didn't know that would make the assumtion (spelling) that we are going out. I am afraid that if we do go out that if we break up we might not be able t be friends anymore because we would hate each other like everyone that i know he has gone out with hates him. I am so confused.

Why not just keep as friends? Unless you really do want to be considered dating, if you're worried about that stuff. Then just talk to him about it. Get it out in the air ect.


I need some advice myself.

See well i am good friends with my crush. I already asked him out a few months ago, i messed up being to vauge and he declined basically. So i decided to give up trying to go out with him but i still really like him

Here is the catch. My "friend" is beginning to get to me alot. She actually told me he asked her out when he only wanted to go biking with someone who can keep up. I don;t think she likes him, she just likes to show off. I told her i don't like it but its bugging me ALOT now. Especially when it seems that my crush perfers to talk to her and ask her to do things then me. I know for a fact she never mountain biked she just told him that to suck up. So when she was invited she had to say no. Now i am just so jealous and frustrated. I want to be considered a better friend to my crush now since it seems this "friend" is his best female friend.

I have no idea how to handle this situation. How to be a better friend, how to stop her being so..so..so oh i have no idea being so suckup-y and trying to flirt with him and tell me all these things i DO NOT need to know about to get me. I almost wnat to go as far as her to stop talking to him. But that would be a bit ...well way to extreme.

advice please and thank you.

Am I allowed to give advice? ..?


Well i will.. i guess. Sorry if i'm not supposed to.

Well, i think your friend either likes this boy, but no matter what, i think you should talk to her about what she is doing. if she doesn't understand what you mean, or is she just says your being stupid or something, then jsut let it go.

This happens all the time at my school. Like i said try to talk to her about it, and if there isn't a postive response, then either find away around it, or don't talk to her for a while. To me, it kind of seems like she is rubbing it in, like "haha i do stuff with him and you don't" Don't blow your cool infront of this guy, because that will make you look bad, just try to be calm.


Good luck, i hope that hellped

Look, I do get a very strong feeling that either you friend has it in for you...or she really likes your crush. Even if it is true, that he likes talking to her better, you said that she lied to suck up, so, probably he enjoys talking to the "fake" her, if she fibs a lot around him. And he's your friend, ask him honestly if he likes her, if he does, and it's based on lies, back off. I can gaurentee the relationship will fall apart. Hope it helps.

Thanks, i have tried to talk to her calmly and she just says no i dont like him. Then when i was around i heard her loudly say "OMG, Ask Hannah! (myname) To tape that show" I just felt raised an eyebrow and walked away. Though yesterday was a pretty bad day for me too, but it just hurt.

I posted a post a while back about the guy i like name Will. I am on the phone with my friends and they are making fun of me and saying stuff like" what are you and will doing this weekend" "when are you seeing will again" it is bugging me and they won't knock it off. What should i do?