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I really needed some advice regarding girls so i thought i would post this. I went out for a date with this girl and i really liked her and everything. And then the day after she wouldn't talk to me saying i was meant to ring her every night! Is this normal or is she just weird?

well i think this thread is a great idea! now on your problem: im a girl so i think i can help. she is just most likely having difficult thinking through things. tou just went out soi she needs to figure out if she feels the same way. maybe she thought she liked you but now isnt sure. thats all i have to say.

i have a problem too- my boyfriend i think is mad at me becuase i obsess over things such as the harry potter series and actors and such. how can i explain to him that thats just me. its who i am. i like harry potter and i like certain actors but that doesnt mean i dont like him. can anyone help?

hey HPfreak, this girl, i think it's a bit odd that she wants you to call her every night, i mean, personally i wouldn't demand that of a guy, but hey, maybe she likes the phone more than me? but RG's babe has a really good point too.

and RG's babe, you don't have to listen to me, but my personal opinion is that your boyfriend should like you for who you are, and if obsessing over harry potter is who you are, than he's not being very nice. tell him flat out that it's a part of you and if he loves you, than he's got to accept the whole harry potter thing.
or if you don't like that idea, than maybe just laying off talking about harry potter to him,, and leaving your love for harry potter for here?
hope it helps

Okay for HpFreak-I don't think it's normal...I think she the type that just wants you all to herself I'm not saying stalker but...
for RG'sbabe-Just tell him straight up. If he has a problem maybe you just weren't ment to be. because he should except you for who you are....but that's just my opinion

I have a problen too
I like three guys. One I never see but I talk to him on the phone he asked me put but I don't think it's good that we live about 3 hours away. Then I like this other guy at my school but he has a girlfriend but she is cheating in him with every guy she meets and I don't want to seem like I'm trying to break them up. then I like this other guy but he's sort of a nerd. I know it's shallow but I can't help thinking about it. PLEASE HELP!!!!!

HPFreak- You'll meet those kind of girls at least once in your lifetime, lol. It's ridiculous that she expected you to call every single night, because 1) she never told you to do it in the first place, 2) there's no rule that you HAVE TO call her every single night, 3) why can't SHE call YOU instead if she wanted to talk to you every night?
If she gets angry at you or doesn't talk to you for something like this, reconsider if want her to be a steady girlfriend. Of course, maybe it's just a phase she's going through. Talk to her about it, and if she calms down and doesn't do something like this again, then everything's fine.


RG's Babe- Haha, my boyfriend does the same thing. But yours should know that these things that you love isn't the same love that you have for him. He should also know that it's kind of stupid to be mad at you for something so trivial. I'm sure there are things about him that you don't like, but you don't go around getting angry at him about it right? (Of course, maybe you shouldn't put it that harsh if you're going to tell him that.) Maybe I guess you can tone down your obsession by just not talking about them around him.


harrysgirl- Liking three guys? That's a bit tough. I think you should settle for one first and then thinking about problems that come.

Guy #1: Living far apart from each other is probably a problem if you guys go out. (I live nearly 2 hours away from my boyfriend, but we go to the same school...so it's a bit different) If you really really do like him, then I suggest you go out. There's no point travelling long distances for a guy that you don't care that much for. For a date, you guys can try going on dates where the both of you travel the same distances. If things don't work out, then I guess the relationship can't work.
Guy #2: You doing the guy a favor by letting him know that his girlfriend is cheating on him. It won't help him if he's wasting time going out a girl that hurting him. It'll benefit you and him.
Guy #3: Hey! My boyfriend's a nerd But I love him for it. As long as the guy's a complete sweetheart, I don't think him being a nerd really counts. And what's so bad about having a boyfriend who's smart? At least you wouldn't be talking to a wall or something that says "Uhh...yeah." all the time.

RG's babe i had sort of the same problem with my friends....its sort of different because they're mainly girls and not my boyfriend or anything. They found it really annoying that i was obsessed with Harry Potter. Even though i acted normal(pretty hard!) around them thay didn't like me going over to two of my other friends who were also obsessed and coming back all crazy. They would ignore me and when i started reading Harry Potter to pass the time they would start teasing me and stuff.

I asked them finally what their problems where and they told me i was too obsessed with Harry potter and never spent time with them because i was always going off to others to discuss Harry Potter. I just said thats who i am and if you dont like it its your choice. 3 of them ended up accepting me but the other 2 formed their own little anti-HP and Anti-me duo.

But i'm happy just being a potter-holic.....reading HP.....watching HP......

I_LOVE_RON- that's cool that you told your friends to accept who you are. and i'm glad that majority of them accepted you.
on the first day of school, people found out that i was obsessed with harry potter and made fun of me for it. i didn't listen, if i love something i'm not going to give it up becuase it's "not cool" in someone else's eyes. but i made other friends that were fine with me being obsessed with harry potter, and it turns out they love it too.

harrysgirl-i'm sure that liking three guys is tough, but i agree with doomed, about the guy who's girl is cheating on him, do him a favour and tell him about it before he has to witness it himself.

thanks for your help guys!! I talked to him the other day and told him what's going on. He seemed hurt but he said he should have figured when she started avoiding him. He was really sad but he seemed better today. thanks again!!

thats cool that you told him- really nice!

thankls ya'll! it really helped! ok my friend has a problem with the guy she likes. her name is Mo and his name is CJ. CJ is really nice, cute but shy. alot of kids make fun of him for not talking alot. Mo is kind of punk and so is CJ but Mo is very talkative. she has tried asking him out but he nerver said yes or no. do ya'll know what she could do to help out their relationship? they are close friend already. also she has no clue i put this up so dont tell her or him ok? please help her out!

ok i have another problem. my boyfriend is really sweet and nice and all but i dont know if i love him anymore. ((note this is teenage love not real love)) so how do i break uo with him? he has liked me for nearly 4 years!

The best way to solve your problem RG's Babe is to be honest...but not straight forward because he might think there's something he did. In other words just sit him down and have a nice long talk

well i broke up with him. now i have another problem. i have 3 crushes. one is on my nestfriend Dan. the other is on my best friend Bevo. the last one is on this kid that is in my Art class. his name is Nico and he is on the basketball team at my school. i like all of them. Dan is not ok tho, he has a girlfriend already. Nico says he has a girlfriend but i dont believe him. Bevo is cute and kind and i like him best. he is really funny too. when i asked him out, he said no and i didnt know why. so i asked him and he said hed rather go with our other best friend Mark. now i dont know what to do. can anyone help me?

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that was reallllllly long!

Wow! If only I had teenage problems again. All I can suggest to all of you is to be honest and upfront, it's the best policy.

My dilemma...

I've known Dave a year, last year I liked him as a friend, and did nothing about it because I was in a serious relationship. I didn't see him for 6 months due to a work closure, and then went back in January.
Anyway he remembered me and my feelings were growing stronger toward him. That first week back at work, my 9 year, 2 children relationship finally broke down and we went our seperate ways. The relationship had been over for a while, it had just taken time to come to the surface.
To go on, I can't stop thinking about Dave and I like him so much and want to ask him out. I am scared for a number of reasons, one of them being rejection. I have almost asked him out but there are always people around, making it more difficult.
There is another issue, it doesn't worry me, but it may him, that he has a 17 year old daughter, meaning that there is a likely 10 year age gap between us.

Help! What do I do?

wow er thats hard to contemplate er....I would go for it but how old is he and how old are you? but that dosent matter my parents have a 9 year difference so what does that matter? If you get rejected come here and we'll sooth you! I know how rejection feels!

my deliemma....

I like to challenge people and hate it when they say something wrong. My freind hates it and wont talk to me if i argue with her. I grew up watching Jeapordy and ever scence then i've challenged people! how can i tell her it's who i am and to deal. (i've told her that but she said to just stop) how can i change that fast when i've been like this for 11 years scene i was 2 basically. i dont want to change!

Who here is dealing with jealous peers? I am. There are about 3 girls who are jealous of me at school because I want to become a page/intern, actress, and a doctor. And they? They don't have the grades to make good quick money at all.

Most of them are SPEDS though. I only have one SPED class which is Reading all because an Integrated Reading wouldn't fit into my schedule! Ugh! But anyway, those girls are jealous of me. Whenever I get a good mark or something good or aspiring happens to me, I can hear them snicker and glare at me like they want to kill me. This one girl glares at me coldly. The other, she just snickers. Jealousy.

Don't worry about jealous people appropriatetina as long as your doing well it doesn't matter. Also I must ask what a SPED is because I live in the UK and have never heard of this.

Thanks for clering that up for me sorry to hear about the abuse you go through. But put it this way at least thats the only class you're having to do at SPED because it must show your teachers think you are capable of dealing with everything. And as for the jealous girls just ignore them because when you go on to be successful they will be left behind still being jealous of anyone who does better than them.

There is this lady at my old Middle School. She loves anyone who's famous at our school. She doesn't care about anything else. All she cares about it fame. She biases people who are famous. Like, if there was an HP Audition in America at my old middle school, she would try to screw up everyone else's audition just to let the famous one win. She is annoying and very disgusting.

And one day, I will walk into my old middle school and laugh at her. She only likes kids who are famous.

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There is something wrong with me. I have "pity friendships" which means I befriend a few people just to make sure nobody knows about the REAL me. I only have very FEW little friends. I am afraid of myself. I don't really trust my counselor, but at least I trust her more than I trusted my middle school counselor. But I do a good job covering in front of her too. Because I don't want anyone to know who I am... and the sad thing is that... they fall for it. I guess I've done for a while and I just get too good at it. At home is where I kinda leave it all out. My sister sees me crying randomly. I sleep a lot and try to take my anger out on music.

Sometimes I think about suicide, but I know not to do it because God wouldn't be happy with me.

Loneliness.......

Appropriatetina, why do you afraid of your self and why you don't want the people to know the real you? I think you are depressed. You shouldn't sleep a lot, you should go out there and do something like having a walk in a park, go to the library or do exercise~Don't cry too much because crying doesn't solve anything, try to express your feelings to your trusted counselor or you mother. You have to love yourself, okay~

Help needed:


I have a huge problem. I'm having a slumber party this weekend but Three of the people who i invited told me today that they would only come if i told these two other girls ( i'll call them gwen and jenna) that they couldn't come. gwen and Jenna already RSVPed but i want them all there. What should I do?

This is a tough one.
Do the other three people you invited hang around with Gwen and Jenna? Sorry what I’m getting at is did they have a falling out or is it that they just don't know each other?

If it's the former maybe you should quietly ask the three girls, (who don't want Jenna and Gwen to come) why they don't want the other two girls to be there? Then maybe you could get round to attempting to solve the root of the problem.

But remember it's your house! And you are accommodating all these people. You shouldn't feel like you have to bend over backwards to for any of these people so maybe it would be just as well if only the two people who said they wanted to come came. It would at the very least take the stress out of the situation and if the other three people don't come up with a decent reason for not taking up you invitation it’s there loss at the end of the day.

Sorry I realise its Friday now and probably too late anyway.. so I’ll I just add that I hope whatever you choose to do works out!

Souljacker, my slumber party is Saturday night so you are just in time. I like your suggestions and will give the people a ring tomorrow. Thank You so much.

to anyone who's feeling lonely or depressed: Your life is too precious.
no matter how hard things seem don't even give a second thought to suicide or cutting yourself,its not worth it and if people find out you've contemplated suicide or that you cut yourself they'll just move further away from you.

No one can help you make friends but my advice is to join a club or group to meet new people but don't lie, make up things or try to be someone you're not.

I used to be friendless and lonely. It helps to read books to get your mind of things or to make a kind of box filled with good memories and stuff. Whenever your really down in the dumps just look in there at all your old photos and other stufff.

Last of all a happy person atttracts others. So be happy

i love ron, that is what i did whe i felt lonely. I read books all the time. when i became more happy i made tons of great friends.

ok, normally i dont tell anyone anything, i dont like to tell my troubles, but keep them in....i give advice more, thats what im known for in my town, but i just cant help it.....ok here goes

When i like someone, i really like them, and it takes me awhile to like them....And well, i like this guy name Ben...he's is awesome, i hang out with him all the time, he teaches me Guitar, he knows piano like i do and he knows how to play drums...he's outgoing and just so funny, i talk to his mom and she's cool, also his brother, sisters and niece and she's just so cute she's only 3...i dont know what to do....i really like him, i really do, i dont know if i should tell him, or not, im well scared that if i do, he might start acting funny, i mean he probably doesn't feel that way for me (o ya just a side note, i put my self down alot)....im the type that wants to see people happy....i mean i use to like my bestfriend (even before he was my bestfriend well best guy friend) and he told me he liked my other bestfriend (my best girl friend) of course he didn't know i liked him for 5 years though...i torn me apart inside, but i wanted to see him happy, so i got them together...i was happy he was happy, and i'll do the same thing with Ben if i find out he likes someone else....now its just a matter if i should tell him or not....

Tough one. I am in the same situation right now. The only advice I can think of is to follow your heart. What is your heart telling you to do. If your heart tells you to tell him you may tell him. There is always the possiblilty that if you tell him he might start acting funny like you said. just follow your heart.

I think you should tell him. Or you could beat around the bush or just hint around it. BUt just be very easy about it. It always works for me.

Hmm, never thought about that but then what if he reacts all weird?

ok i have another boy problem. i have a crsush on a boy in my school named Nico. hes cute, funny and nice. the only problem is he doesnt know i exist. hes spoken to me once in 8 weeks! that actually was today. anyway, i dont know what to do. should i give up on him or should i try talking to him or something? im so confused!

excatly what if he starts to act weird, should i tell him and risk it...well thanx for your suggestions i really appreciate it...

Ok so how long have you known him? and about how long have you known him? he knows you exist, he talk to you....do you have him for any classes? if so talk to him during class, do something like ummm ask him what the assignment was...or at school events like games. slowly start talking to him. Find out what you have in common with him and then that way you always have something to talk about. or talking about what happen at school, if anything happen that is...like a fight, or break ups...i know it sounds dumb but it works. you just need to slowly need to talk and get to know him better, it'll all start to form...dont give up to easy, just try and talk to him and see what happens....im not, im just also alittle confused

well, if a guy likes you, youll see him in the corner of your eye a lot. (at least, thats what my GF said she saw of me when I was 'stalking' her.)

also, my dad is a Math Professor. He seems to want me to follow his path, or at least do something 'resperctable'. What he does not know, is that since the age of six, I've been wanting to be in a rock band playing drums (after seeing Guy Paterson in That Thing You Do) and for three years, I've lived my dream. I have helped wirite the lyrics to over 40 songs, and have helped finish about 17. we have chosen a theme for what we hope will be our debut ablbum in our city/town, (Remements of Some 56 Letters.)

The Problem is, He thinks I'm not serious enough about it. even though we both LOVE the same music, he seems to think I'm as dedicated to that as I am to schoolwork. We re REALLY REALLY good, seriously. we have a chance, but how do I convince my dad that this is my dream and I'm fulfilling it, as he did his?

~Esrb99~

ok so it seems like you've talk to you dad about this....or have you? i mean have you told him or does he know of all the work you have done? i mean of all the things you helped with, the lyrics and songs...i think your dad might see that your dedicated but just doesn't want to say cuz he wants you to do something 'respectable'....i could be wrong of course...you just need to show him you serious by the little things like always going to pratice or if you guyz play for things, i dunno, ask him to listen to you guyz, you said you two like the same music right, so has he heard you guyz play? if you guyz are really really good and you believe that you guyz can do it, whats holding you back, you believe. and if you go through with this your dad will still love you, parents always support even though they dont like the idea of what your doing but they'll be there, just talk about it and ask why doesn't he think your dedicated

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ok about the Nico problem im having.
i cant get him out of my head! i really like him so my friend Mozez (cool name right?) told me to write him a letter asking him out. my mom thinks thats a bad idea cuz Nico's friend Tyler is one of my "enemies". what should i do?! should i give him the letter, tell him in person, what? im so confused!

Rg's babe, go talk to him. If you haven't talked to him, how do you know if you like him? And don't aks him out until you've talked to him. because it might just be me but that makes it sound like you're kind of superficial.

i have talked to him. i know what he does for fun and stuff. hes on my bus 3 times a week so of course i know about him. he knows who i am but he doesnt really know me. thats why i think the letter is confusing. i dont know what to do guys. can you help?

So why not tell him about yourself, isn’t that obvious?
I don’t really see the problem…I mean, you said that y’all talk, so ‘talk’ bring yourself into the conversation thats not hard is it?

M.C

this bites. i asked him out and he said no and i cant stop thinking about him and its driving me crazy! now im in a worse situation than before.

I hate to put it like this but all you can do now is get over it. I hate to have brake it to you but that's all you can do. Unless he changes his mind and if he does, you'll know. I know it hurts but like I siad, it's all you can do right now...if I think of another way, I'll let you know.

I know this is probably of absolutely no benefit what so ever now, but fair play for asking him in the first place! At least now he know how you feel and at the very, very least you'll never have to wonder what if, ultimately it's much better to regret doing something than to regret not doing something (IMHO).

You’re a lot braver than me

i had an english test, well and my best friend asked me to do 2 parts of the test for her.
i toke the risk the teacher may chatch me and give me a big ziro and did the 2 parts she wanted.
well...i got 104 and she got 54.
now she is mad at me because she wanted me to do more parts for her and i didnt do it.
she won't speak to me now.
what must i do? i really need your edvice

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You shouldn't have done the questions for her. She hasn't half got a blooming cheek to criticise you after you helped her out. Real friends don't ask you to do things like that and they certainly don't have a go at you for helping them out.

She's using you. Get a little self respect and tell her to get lost and go find some other soft-touch to do her work for her.

She'll probably apologise and come to her senses if she's a true friend because she wouldn't want to lose you. If she goes, she was never a true friend in the first place and you're better off without her.

Life is too short to waste on people like that.

**big cheer and wave for lou** um.. anyway, I have to say i do completly agree with dana - and if she really does hold this against you, shes no friend at all

hey everyone. i need some advice (again) but first i just wanted to say this topic is OLD! lol, i just wanted to say that.

ok so here is my latest bit of guy trouble.
my best friend Bevo is really nice and funny and hes cute. ive had a crush on him for a long time but he doesnt like me (i think). i know for a fact that he likes my other best friend Jackie. im happy for Jackie 'cause now she and him are dating, but what about me? i dont know how to deal with this. me and Bevo have gotten closer in about a month but he's dating Jackie. now im all confused. should i move on, or wait?

I'm going to have to go for wait on this one, If you make a move while hes dating your friend your just going to really complicate matters by going out with Bevo while or just after he's in the process of going out with Jackie.
If Bevo and Jackie are not going to last let them get closure by breaking-up before you make your move. But in saying that I've never been in your position, so this is in no way coming from experience.

Alternatively your in the ideal position to be able t gauge your friends relationship, so you probably will have a good idea how its going and so you can use this this judge what is best to do, if there happy, then i suppose the decision is more or less already made.

P.s. I love this thread, I'm really glad its active again.

Awww Bless *hugz!*

I know exactly how you feel, and it really does Suck!

I'm suggesting that you try and move on. If you find a guy you like, go for it! Believe me it will be so much better.

But by any means, do not start making a move on him now, and jepordise your friendship with any of them (because in the long run that's much more important.)

Also, don't give up on other guys with false hope.

I'm speaking with experience here, because if you do it once, you'll find it so hard to settle down with a new guy who isn't your Bevo. Believe me i'm in your posistion at the moment, but tens times worse because i did everything wrong, ooooh about 3 years ago? lol.

I had a crush on my best mate and he got a girl *shock!* well...i thought for a while he was gay.... but when they broke up i had a guy, but couldn't bring myself to go out with him becasuse i realised that i was in love with my mate.

Every relationship every...everything with guy since then has been weird because i feel as though i'm cheating on him and can't bare to hurt him (my brain is . weird) *sigh* if i'd just gone out with that guy i would never have been in this state

Um, where was i?

Oh yes, try and move on. But if they break up and your single? Whoop! Good luck to you!