Gosh, David, wish someone would say that about me...that is so amazingly sweet! I just hope that she cares about you just as much. How long have you two been going out? (Can't believe I never asked!)

Breaking news:

Well, guess what I did today... Can't hold it in any longer! I broke up with him!! Huzzah!!!

For now, I'm just a free agent. Miss Independent, if you will. And I really like it that way. Then I can scout out some hot guys...

Advice for anyone who doesn't have a boyfriend/girlfriend yet: Enjoy being free while it lasts. Save that innocence--that first glance, that first dance, that first kiss. Savor being where you are. You'll have plenty of time for all that later. For now, scout out some friends of both genders. Concentrate on being who you want to be. Chances are some of your opposite gender friends will notice you for who you really are...

Adivce for anyone who has broken up with a boyfriend/girlfriend: Never regret anything that once made you smile.

Advice for anyone who has a boyfriend/girlfriend and likes it: I really can't give any advice except that you should be yourself. The whole problem with my ex-boyfriend (yay!!! ) was that he became a wanna-be, and I don't roll like that. The guy who called himself my boyfriend was not the guy I fell for two years ago.

~Gerry's Gurl~

Good advice there, padfootchick (**memory lapse... can't remember your real name, I apologize!**) -- I always feel like there's so much pressure to "grow up" quickly in our society. Well, with female role models like Hermione and Ginny... go figure. But my prejudices against certain characters aside, I think a lot of people in our generation have a false perception of "maturity." You don't need to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend or a date every weekend to be "sophisticated" or to have an interesting social life, and I think that's the trap that a lot of adolescent girls in particular are falling into as a result of the media. IMO, the teenage years should be about developing your intellect, your values, your friendships, and above all, your sense of self.

I'm not against "going out" or anything -- most kids our age do; I know my parents started dating when they were in high school and I think it's a great thing if you find yourself in a caring relationship at such a young age -- but if you think some sort of superficial romance is what you need to be "cool" ... it's just wrong. I'm seventeen and I've never had a boyfriend, but I think I've had a very fulfilling high school experience and I have no regrets about my social decisions.

No fears, Allie. (I'm Alaina, by the way...) But I have to say that you give some very good advice yourself! And you're the perfect role model for people who are all emo because they aren't "going out"; you said yourself, you haven't got a boyfriend but you're happy with where you are...That in itself says a lot. (PS--How's college going, Allie?? I know, I know, but I just had to find out...)

I want to say something to Anglophile, too...You, like Allie, are a great example of someone who isn't involved with anyone but likes being where they are. Something tells me that a lot of guys will notice you and Allie for that...

~Gerry's Gurl~ (or, for people who are old and forgetful like Allie--just teasing you!!--Alaina)

Awww, that's so sweet! She's really lucky to have a guy like you, David.

Anyway, I don't have a boyfriend. I've been asked out twice, by two of my very good guy friends, and I said no...I don' t know why either! I'd always dreamed about one of them being my boyfriend, and here's my chance, and I say no. I don't know what's wrong with me.

My friends all tell me that I'm "afraid of commitment", and that I'm gonna end up lonely and living with 37 cats and my knitting. They sure know how to cheer a girl up...

But I think its because sometimes its more fun to be single. And I don't really see the need for a bf right now, even though I would like one, it's not a big deal in my life. I'm 13 and still trying to pass school and do well in sports and things that.One more thing added on to my life would just make it collapse. (Sorry if this offends anyone with a bf/gf, its just the way I feel, and I'm happy for the two of you to be together )

Well, in short, haha, the answer to the question is no...for now....

XXXX
Anjali

Ok, sorry everyone, but that has to be the most confusing, most contradictory thing I've ever written.It's just that I'm really confused and I really don't know what I'm thinking, or how I feel. I kind of should have stopped at the beginning. Sorry!

No, I know exactly how you feel, hermione_lover930805! I've had waaaaay too many experiences like that...*snorts* Actually, I have a really funny story...but it didn't happen to me, mind, it happened to my friend Kit.

Kit is 14. She was in Florida with her cousin Catherine and her friend Rose. They were at the pool, and two random guys who are at least 19 walk up to her. The first guy is really ugly--he has a mustache and this really greasy black hair. The second guy is ugly, too, but his hair is--get this--nearly gone. The guy is balding, ok? My friend, however, was willing to overlook that. She's really sweet and sees past people's looks fast, which is nice. But these guys were C-R-A-Z-Y with a capital Z. They started talking to her about...well...stuff that isn't exactly G-rated. Kit got completely freaked out and tried to escape with Rose and Catherine, but they had already left. So she was left with these freaky guys who were now fighting over who should give her their phone number and email address. "I saw her first!" the one guy was screaming. "Too bad!" the other guy yelled. Kit ran away. But these guys hunted her down and gave her their phone numbers. Kit threw them away as soon as she got back home, but a month later (while I was at her house) the mustachioed guy called her, wondering why she hadn't called him yet! I nearly died laughing, and Kit tried to throw me out of the house.

Single people rule!

~Gerry's Gurl~

hehehe...Battle it out with you!

Well, yeah, the scarcity of guys on this site gets a little disappointing, but I would say that maybe one out of every six or so people are guys. It does not bother me too much...

I remember back in fourth or fifth grade, I got a "Secret Admirer" letter from somebody in my class on Valentine's Day. Everybody was wondering who it was from and we started to compare handwriting and seeing who had the same stationary as that used in the letter. It was really funny, but I was a bit disappointed when we narrowed it down to one suspect...a girl who is -- urrgh...well, I did not like her . Needless to say, I got a bit of teasing about that incident for a few years from my friends...but at least I had a secret admirer and they didn't, regardless of who it was!




_daviD

You sound like me

I have been through some awful relationships. But now Im with a wonderful guy, and he is the greatest boyfriend ever, without a doubt. He's 2 years younger than me (Im 18, hes 16), but like you said, I feel so lucky. He treats me with respect. I trust him completely. My mom likes him, hes met almost all of my extended family, and they like him, and that means alot to me that they approve.

I even got him into Harry Potter! Which, obviously, is a huge plus! Our little joke with each other is that we're just like Ron and Hermione. (If you arent for the whole R/Hr ship, Im sorry, Im not trying to be offensive or anything)

Aww... Thanks! That's really sweet. And you're a great example of a single-and-loving-it person. Miss Independant All the Way!

David--I had an experience quite like yours! This kid that the whole grade HATES because he's an immature and shy jerk had this mega-major crush on me earlier this year. Thank goodness he's over it. At first I was trying to be nice to him...thinking that he was nice, too...but he's not. Rawr. Oh well.

Single Squeeps UNITE!

~Gerry's Gurl~

I totally agree, I seriously can't do boys
they either mess you about or break your heart or you know you just can't hvae them
That is why I'm considering becoming a lesbian lol

Could you really be that bad that you're surprised she puts up with you?

I don't have a boyfriend. I did have a boyfriend, we were together for just over a year, but he never liked to speak to me or want to have anything to do with me. Two weeks before Christmas last year, I dumped him saying I like someone else (by this time the rumour had been spread to him who it was) he was fine with it. The guy I dumped him for is accuately his best friend and found out the rumour less than a minute before I dumped the guy. People were bugging me about it all week until finally I got the courage to ask out my crush. He said he wasn't ready for a girlfriend yet (we are only 13 so I understand) but he would love to be friends with me. On Valentine's Day we both had to sit out of Softball (he forgot his sport clothes and I hurt my foot) so this other girl asked him out for me buthe once again said no. Last week I found out my ex-boyfriend never liked me and that my crush never wants to go out with me.

Oh well, I'm enjoying single life as much as I can!

Caity