QUOTE(bigkisses13 @ Apr 25 2007, 01:52 AM) [snapback]377509[/snapback]
Okay here we go. I've been lurking over at EW.net on the debate thread of course and a heron stated that Hermione gives gives gives to Harry and all Harry does is take. Now normally i would like to deny with every fiber of my being that a heron is right but later i started to think about how no matter what happens in deathly hollows, even if ron and hermione some how find "love" harry will still be the most important guy in Hermione's life. And Hermione for him right, but wrong. I still think that Hermione is the most important girl in Harry's life but he has failed to realize it. Now i dont know if his realization will be key in his realization of his love for her but either way i'm pretty p.o.ed at harry for not realizing how important hermione is to him yet. you think he would have after her near death experience but i guess thats the whole reason why H/hr hasnt happened yet, because harry is so stupid he has failed to realize hermione's importance. Okay end rant.
I don't think that Harry has failed to realise it yet - maybe on a personal, intimate level he has, but Hermione has not really struck me as that sort of person. I could be wrong, but Harry's keeping Hermione as a friend is, as I see it, payment enough for Hermione. Sure, she gives he and Ron a lot of help, but she gets the satisfaction of being the brains and getting praise for it. I think that Harry does act a little out of Hermione's loop of feelings for him every now and then, but then again, he's a very busy and popular guy, and he has a lot on his plate with Voldemort back - not to mention that the story would be less interesting if he just outright realised his feelings, as there would be no suspense. Really, I think that Hermione, inexperienced with love, is bringing any frustration she may have with Harry's inattention upon herself, as she really doesn't know how to approach him about the topic. Likewise, Harry goes through a range of emotions that only Hermione truly realises, and - the story from his perspective - we clearly see that Harry is
extremely grateful for her help and support.
All said, I'd say they are the deepest kind of friends, and that's what counts - not how much attention who gives who, but what simply is. Hermione is Harry's best female friend, and he would stick up for her in any situation and
does genuinely care for her in a more subtle way. And Hermione really isn't that obvious about it either. I think it is more of a fancy of her's that gets aggitated when Harry is involved with other people, so it's understandable that he doesn't notice the subtle signs - yet. Hermione's jealousy is about the only public indicator that I've seen of her true feelings - well, that and when she gets worked up over something else, like the time she's upset with Harry 'siding' with Ron on the Scabbers issue - but, all told, the relationship they have stems from the respect and appreciation they have for one another; the other feelings only come out every now and then.
Harry doesn't yet realise how much he relies on Hermione for help, and she doesn't realise how much she relies on him for support. So, while it appears give and take between them, they really whole-heartedly support and care for each other.
Interesting comment coming from a Heron... I would have thought they would say that Hermione isn't giving at all to Harry beyond a basic friendship... Almost like they are admitting we are right, albeit one tiny snag...
Also, on your last point about her near-death experience: take heart! The worst of things bring out the best in people. Then, we got a glimpse of Harry's heart in pure; trust that it will happen again. Really, all throughout Order of the Phoenix, he was realising more and more how much Hermione supported him and meant to him as a friend (check my signature for a quick quote on the matter). That was a cumulation of his feeling. After that, though, he had to face the death of Sirius, which basically washed all else from his mind at the end of the book and into the next. Once he had rejoined Hermione, setting was key. Quick Quiz: Where was he? Answer: The Burrow. And who else, besides Hermione, was at the Burrow?
Only the entire Weasley family, including someone who was to capture his attention for the rest of the book - how is up to speculation, but I hear that
Dumbledore's Widow says something about love and potions being involved...
Whatever the case, I think Hermione finally realised she needs to step it up a notch in Half-Blood Prince - maybe due to competition, because methods like that are not going to be kept to one's self, even if only the general intent is revealed (see if you can put two and two together for what I'm getting at... it has something to do with Ginny interacting with Hermione...). Anyway, Half-Blood Prince is where hormones are running high, and now it's time to see how the other side views the relationship and what's in their heart. Come on, those compliments to Harry weren't for naught...
So, I think Deathly Hallows has very good potential for them to both get their heads back on straight after going through emotion puberty in the last two books, and then we'll see how the relationship was only give and take at any given point because one person let it be, on either side. Once they get their minds back, the bond they will have as friends will grow so deep that there's no way it'll be otherwise...
Always look on the bright side of life! Hermione's not giving too much: she's just experiencing love. And Harry's not ignoring: he's just working out his feelings. It's the experience they're getting for all of this that is key to their relationship.
Harry and Hermione
FOREVER!!!Kudos!