oh yeah laughing is so important! i don't think i could fall for someone serious i need someone who is a bit crazy like me and loves to laugh!

I just need someone with a personality that's similar to WOOHOO! They also have to be able to go with the flow. It would drive me nuts if they had to have everything a certain way. Especially since I just go with the flow where ever it may go! ha that rhymes!

Oh definitly, he has to be able to make me laugh. I get upset pretty easily, so I need a guy who can cheer me up when. There's this one guy at my school who I've liked forever, I was talking about him before on here. Anyways, he could always make me laugh, no matter how upset I am, he can always make me laugh...

I am a hug w*ore. Everybody used to call me one, because I would hug just about anyone. I think the thing about Jessica Alba is the whole exotic look. Lots of guys are into the exotic look.

- Phoenix

Oh dear Jamie, oh dear... lol
I love guys who can give great hugs, ones which are just right *sigh* and making me laugh always helps don't want to be dating someone really dull no do we?!
Yeah what is it with Jessica Alba?! i don't get it...
.X.

I've dated people who were fairly dull. It's really no fun at all.

Hugs are awesome! If I could make a living doing it, I would go around the world hugging anybody and everybody. Not only is it nice, it is actually scientifically proven to be good for you. It lowers blood pressure and relieves tension in the neck and back. Nothing better for you then some chocolate and a hug

- Phoenix

Wow i didn't know it was scientifically proven to be good for you. Interesting.

Hey i have an idea! Why don't you just go around to any random person a hug and then when they start having a go at you just say that it is 'national give everyone a hug day'.
Me and my crazy friend did that once in school. We created a 'national grab someone's bottom day'. It was so funny, we just went around school all day smacking boy's behinds (only boys we knew would be up for a laugh though lol) It was so cool, people actually believed us and by the end of the day you couldn't take 3 steps without someone grabbing your derriere lol.

Create a hugging day!

woahh that sounds awesome haha
just asking guys .. what are the first things you notice about a girl when you first see them?
most girls want to know the answer to that
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It really was awesome lol. And it gave us an excuse to grab the boys behinds that we secretly liked.
Yeah i want to know the answer to that as well. When i see a boy i notice their hair first and then their eyes.

ok, not all guys will answer the same, and a lot will lie. I first notice hair, facial feautures and legs. Then, it's waist, hips and the other unmentionables. Of course I don't do this anymore because I have such and awesome woman, but I still notice hair. I like hair

- Phoenix

Yes because we all know you're a hairdresser by night
legs? darn it, ok i'm deifnatly going jogging again ! lol. i still haven't seen bakery boy who was hott by my stanards!
.X.

Lol I don't like my legs either. I know it sounds really weird but you can sort of tell what someone is going to be like by their hair in some cases. Like some styles have like a certain type of hair style that is fashionable and so you can tell what style they've got and then you can tell what sort of music and stuff like that that they are into and so you can sort of tell if you have that in common.

Yeah i knopw what you mean. Like jock boys all have a certain loook about them, so you know to avoid them ( hott but jerks, hott jerks ).
It's weird but true. That's why i want a guy to have nice ahir, so i immediatly like him
.X.

lol Hair has replaced eyes as the window to the soul. I know what I think about someone at first glance has a lot to do with their hair. If they have their hair back in a ponytail, you might be able to say they are athletic. If they have their hair curly and long, you can tell that they like to feel elegant. If it is long and straight...that's just hot!

- Phoenix

Wghy is it that guys like long straight hair?! ( other than the fatc that Mandi has it... lol )
I want my hair long and curly. It would be long had the hairdresser not cut it and it was curly ( thanks to haircurlers) the other day
Eyes and hair are top of our lists now
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I agree, hugs and chocolate are really the only things you need in life. lol.


You seriously walked up to random guys and grabed their behinds? haha. I could so see me and my friends doing something like that. We should create a national (make that worldwide) hug day.


Ugh...I hate my hair, it doesn't do anything. I have okay legs I guess...but I don't wear skirts because I hate my knees.



I don't get it either Sophie. I have the straightest hair on the planet and I absolutly hate it. Yet everybody else on the planet (guys and girls with curly hair) think it's this great thing.

no one's ever happy...
do you reckon you'd ever fall for a guy with really awful hair? ( this sounds very superficial sorry! ) but you know you see those people with really terrible hair, like huge spikes, or long waist length hair and weird stuff like that, do you reckon you'd fall for one if they were really sweet? or would the hair scare you off?!
.X.

Yeah! Of course i did it! try it some time honestly you won't be able to stop laughing about it for weeks. We really should create a 'worldwide give everyone a hug day'.




It really does sound superficial but you wouldn't even approach a guy if he looked bad. I care more about their personality than their looks but if their hot it helps. So the hair would scare me off.

As girly as it sounds, I like to keep my hair really soft. The other day it smelled like candy canes after I took a shower I think that all hair should always smell wonderful

- Phoenix

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well sophie that one is very easy, and like jaimie said not all guys see the same thing, what i first look at are eyes and hair, if they're both great they have passed the fisical hahaha if they don't well they still have a chance when i talk to them, if i like the way they are, perfect and if they have both of those things she's perfect!but, like always i have a but, if she has cool hair and eyes and we don't anything i common then, i'm sorry hahaha i don't care what she looks like but she has to have brains...

Good to know crutiatus_andy! haha! Love it!

Umm ... Well lately I've been falling for my stage husband which is kind of catastrophic because he has a girlfriend and we need to have a relationship without awkwardness so yeah ... I'm kind of hoping I get over it soon!

Hey Andy I had no idea physical was splet 'fisical'! lol. Just thought I'd point that out to you! I guess I've been spelling physical wrong for a long time now!

Okay back on topic. Well the guy would definatley have to be at least some what smart. I would get soooo bored if I couldn't carry on a semi intelligent conversation every once and a while! I wouldn't mind if they shared some of my interests too. Like music and sports.

Well, while it's really superficial I am not completely sure. Like I was at the mall the other day with my friend, and this random guy came up and started flirting with her. After he left I looked at her and said something about 'he would be really cute if he would cut his hair.' But like I really didn't know the guy. If he was like a friend of mine and I knew he was really a great guy, just had funny hair, I think I'd give him a chance.


I like guys with soft hair. My one guy friend has the softest hair on the planet, I hate him for it. lol. But like whenever I see him in the hall I'll walk up behind him and just start patting the top of his head. lol.


Oooh I want details! lol. I have fallen for a guy who I was acting with before...not the best outcome...but I still want details, what does he look like, personality, that sorta thing. lol

haha.. i've only had like 2 real crushes and my first one ended horribly. and my second one, not so much. i usually like guys that i'm attracted to as in i like the way they look. i usually go for guys with brown hair and have a cute face. i also look at the body.. i know i'm weird. but the last guy i had a major crush on was a gymnast and had a six-pack that was very very very nice to see at a pool party. let me tell you. it was really nice. but then i get to know the person and befriend him. he was really nice and actually cared about me and he became my best guy friend. he would always be there for me when i needed to talk, he could make me laugh when i didn't want to smile, and he could get my mind off of anything. he trusted me with everything, and i did the same to him. he told me everthing, and i did the same to him. he was amazing, but then he changed and now he talk now and again. but i miss who he was.. so much. but what's weird is when i liked him, i told him i did, i know, i was stupid. stp laughing. but then we just avoided each other for awhile, and then we started talking on aim. we talked more and more and got to know each other more and we just became friends on the way. it was really weird, but i liked it. because i found an amazing friendship from a crush. but when we were really good friends, i can't help but wonder why he trusted me, and cared about me, he always wondered why i was sad or tired or mad or what was up with me. he knew something was wrong even if i had a smile on my face and i was never able to lie to him. but i can't help but wonder if he liked me back, probably not cause he went out with my friend... he was stupid then. nothing happened between them and he didn't do anything different. he acted the same with her like he would any girl. but in the summer at her pool party, he and she flirted like crazy. haha

I'm not sure whether to say he sounds nice or not Lol. He sounded nice at first, put it that way ! haha
All 3 of my crushes ended badly, well not badly, 2 just sorta ended, but one ended very badly

yeah we all do that, we kinda judge them, but if they were are friend it'd be perfectly fine. weirdness.

same for guys really, they have to have a vague level of common sense and intelligence and i ahve to get on eith them...
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Well after how my best friends last crush ended I'm never gonna say mine ended horribly! The way hers ended was the worst possible way (he died in a snow mobiling crash) and now for the first time in her entire life she doesn't like anyone! So I'm never complaining again.

Oh my God! That is so sad, I'm so sorry. How long ago was it? Yea, I agree, suddenly getting dumped doesn't sound so bad..wow, give your friend my condolense. I'll pray for him, even though I didn't know him but still.

I am so sorry.My crush died too.He died in a car wreck.*tear*He was so nice and cute.*sobs uncontrollably*

It happened... 2 days after my birthday (3 after his) and 5 days before my friend died. So yeah lots of death that week. It kind of sucked.


Don't cry! It'll be alright don't worry!

Oh my God! I'm so sorry, don't cry, I know this sounds so unbelieveably steriotypical (I absolutely hate when people say it to me) but I'm sure he's in a better place now. I'll pray for him as well.


I'm so sorry about your friend. That must have been a dreadfull week.

You guys will all be in my prayers tonight.

Okay, so getting off of this dreadfull subject and back onto topic, there's this guy who goes to my church who I've known forever. He used to date a friend of mine, who I don't talk to anymore. I've never really thought of him as more than a friend, and I'm not even sure you would consider us friends, we hang out at events that our youth group does, but we don't ever really talk at school, even though we go to the same school and have classes together. But anyways, today before mass we were hanging out talking and I noticed how easy it is for me to talk and laugh around him (I'm a pretty shy person), and then I was sitting next to him during mass, and we hold hands during the Our Father, and I couldn't help but notice how nice his hands felt. I honestly don't know whats going on, because he isn't somebody I normally like, and after the reasoning for breaking up with my friend (his friends teased him for dating someone not in track) I know better than to think he'd actually like me...but I don't know...

~confused (kristina)

Nice Kristina! Well if it had been me I'd probably forget the Our Father and start mumbling. I did that the Sunday after my friend died (okay off this subject for good now!). Any ways on the sbject of guys at church... we went to stations of the croos tonight with the youth group chior or whatever you want to call it playing and one of the guitar players was really HOT!!! To bad we had to exit church quietly. Darn! All well nothing I can do now! Wow now that I think about it there are a TON of hot guys at my church! I think I might start going to youth group now! lol
~Erin

yea, that's why I got to sit with him, instead of with my family. I was acting out the Gospel reading (the Passion) with my youth group, so I had to sit with them. But I wasn't exactly complaining lol. There are a few hott guys at my church to, but not many of them are that involved...*sigh* Hmm...for your guy, Erin, I would suggest looking into joining the choir. lol.

Yeah I'll play the piano I think my friend said they are looking for another piano player that's younger since it is the "Youth Chior" of "Life Teen Chior" whatever you want to call it! Hahaha I'll be the person who comes at the end of the year to youth Group if people ask I'll just say it was to hard to get me home afterwards! That should work since it is technically true! But then I like this other guy that goes to a different school. I felt so bad when I last saw him because I hadn't seen him since the summer after 4th grade and he comes up to me and my friend and says, "Hey Erin Hey Lauren!" My friend recognizes him right away but me on the other hand.. I stared at him trying to figure out who he was! Then it clicked and with out thinking I said, "Gary?" and he nodded. I felt aweful seeing as he recognized but I couldn't figure out who he was to save my life at first. But then we talked for I don't even know how long. It was just until my friend and I had to leave! I really did geel bad though! I'm such a blonde! I swear! lol

Aw, that's okay Erin, I do stupid things like that all the time. I am absolutely the worst at putting names to faces. Okay, so tell us about this Gary guy. I'm an extremly nosy person and need details. lol.

wow you guys have been really busy! well you've gone from death (sorry to say i think i'm happy i missed out on that conversation)
now you're talking about cute guys at church? lol

kristina i forbid you to say anything like that again what do you mean i know better than to think he'd actually like me? a guy would have to be blind and stupid not to like you! sometimes we fall for the guy that isn't our type, but those are the guys that end up being great for us!

so yeah more info on gary!

*sigh* i haven't had news on sandy

i thought of something else i look for in a guy. if i start saying something radom he has to follow my lead lol start being random also! guys that don't know how to go along with a joke are annoying!

Stef i agree, im glad i missed out on the earlier conversation. My condolences both of you...

Ok you can't start talking about these guys and tehn not tell us what they're like... do tell. please !
I'm hopefully starting a youth group next year, and hopefully meeting lots of fitt guys
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Nah Stef, this guy cares to much about what his friends think. And his frienda all hate me so...what can you do. He broke up with his girlfriend, somebody who I used to be friends with, because his friends didn't like her, they had been dating for a year, and he still really liked her, but his friends didn't so he ended it. The fact that his friends hate me (I only kinda smaked one of them for being a [fill in the blank] to a friend of mine...) But they would never forgive him for dating me, heck they are the reason we don't talk at school, just at church when none of them are around. So, I don't have much of a chance.

Aw, no news from Sandy? I'm sorry Stef.

Oh I agree, he has to be able to keep up with my phsycoticness. When I start going off on something random he has to be able to keep up with me, not just sit there staring at me like I'm on drugs.

That really sucks ( well done for smacking one though ! ).
Well if he cares that much about what his friends think he's probably not worth it... i mean he dumped that "friend" regasrdless of his feeling for her / or her for him, so he's not worth it, really Kristina.. sorry to be mean *hugs*
.X.

Aw. That sucks. I hate when that happens. I just found out a sevnth grader (im in 8th) likes me. And I only just found out. AND Im his best friend so it sucks. UYou know I hug him and we talk lots and we have loads of fun when we went on our Select Chorus trip . (Love ya Becka, Steven, Torrence, Patrick, Mapa) Now I have no clue what to do.

And he thinks that i know but luckly my bffls (Kayla and Becka) are telling him no.

WHAT DO I DO!?

ahhh...yeah...same, I found out like 3 months ago that one of best friends likes me...and naturally I got freaked out...because he is my good friend & yeah....he doesn't know that I know, though...and I haven't really bothered telling him about it...but it becomes really weird for me when we're hanging out together...because I feel really guilty, cause' deep down I only like him as a friend...so, yeah...theres' nothing that I can really do....even though I want him to stop crushing on me...I really don't want to lose my good friend....

wow well lizzie and jay i think at least once it's happened to us all! it has to me and it sucks really and well i agree with jay if you don't like him and don't want to lose him as a friend just pretend you don't know a thing! if you think it's too weird well then talk to him he'll have to understand!

Choco: "ahhh...yeah...same, I found out like 3 months ago that one of best friends likes me...and naturally I got freaked out...because he is my good friend & yeah....he doesn't know that I know, though...and I haven't really bothered telling him about it...but it becomes really weird for me when we're hanging out together...because I feel really guilty, cause' deep down I only like him as a friend...so, yeah...theres' nothing that I can really do....even though I want him to stop crushing on me...I really don't want to lose my good friend...."



I have the same problem with one of my Good Guy friends liking me. But I dont like him back the way he likes me. I like someone else and he likes someone else. So it is a big Love Traingle when no one knows what each other feels. And no one feels the same about each other. Love lives stink. lol ~Kaili~

wow...that' so entangled....haha, yeah love lives & mazes sure do stink. yup, since I've never been much of a 'confrontation' person, so pretending I don't know is the way to go for me.

ok, that just sucks....I hate guys like that...argh! why do they always care about what others' think of their girlfriends/crushes!?!?

Ah. Yes. Love does stink. Thanks Stef and Jay for the advice. Right now Im pretending i have no clue But at least I can say to pople who think Im going out with this other kid 'Nope. But I think someone likes me soo oh well and youll nver get a peep out of me'

I hate entagled relationships. If I get in those Ill never come out...alive. ok at least in one peice. I agree. You cant get hurt by not knowing. But o can learn.

I think Love was made to be complicated. It drives everyone insane.

Well, I guess it depends, I have dated a guy who is younger than me before, and it was okay at first, but after graduation we barly ever talked anymore (I was in eigth grade and he was in seventh) and we had been really good freinds and now I feel so awkward around him..So I don't really know. I mean, this guy was one of my best friends, and I've only spoken to him once since we broke up (about 7 months ago). So, I guess if you are willing to risk your friendship then give him a chance, but yea, theres a chance that you might lose that if things don't work out.


Well, if you really don't like him then you have to be honest, but I don't know, my story with the same situation ends with me not talking to him, so you may want to take edvice from somebody else.

situations like that only work out if both people are ok with it! if not then well you lose the friendship you had.

example (lol i always use myself as an example) well the last boyfriend i had was one of my best friends and well i found out that he liked me. so i was like ok lets give it a shot so when started going out and well things happened (long story) and i broke it off, now he doesn't speak to me and well a lot of the friends i once had don't speak to me because of him

so lizzie think about it

awww...well...that's just sad....it's not your fault...and it's not his fault...and its not...(ok, now I am just losing my head )...well, true; stuff like that won't work if both people don't co-operate & live with it...*sigh* that is why I choose to ignore it...

smart girl dear jay! well yeah it wasn't my fault but he chose to blame me! pff that is why guys suck! sorry but it's trye! right now i'm mad at guys for being such pratts! why get your hopes up and then just leave you there all confused and stuff?

wow, i've never been called 'smart' before he chose to blame you...ok, now that just sucks (another thing to add to my list of guys that I will never fall for: ones who blame a girl for eveything!). True, I hate guys who act like they're interested & stuff & then suddenly treat you, as if you don't exist...I mean; how annoying is that!

really annoying! i mean how do you forget about someone so fast? it isn't possible!

add to list of things i want... a person who doesn't forget about me easily