I'm in the same position you are Jay, well, kinda...My mom is the baby and my dad is in the middle. So neither of them fully understand the pressure put on the oldest kid, I'm the test subject, they are learning how it goes with me, and I also have to be the example for my younger siblings, anything they do wrong is somehow my fault, because they must have learned it from me. *sigh*

Okay, getting back on topic. I like guys who can be romantic. Doesn't every girl? lol. I'm not asking for anything big, just you know, little things. Surprise me, come up behind me and put your arms around me, kiss me in the rain...*trails off into dream land*

o yeah...romantic is alright. as long as it's not too cheesy & corny....haha, i've actually had the whole 'kiss in the rain' thing once. it was sooo weird & funny & sweet! but now the guy got a transfer...*sigh*...o well...

Yea, I don't want a guy whose so romantic it's cheesy, just little things every now and then. You've had a kiss in the rain Jay? Oh I'm jelous. lol.

Another thing, he can't be afraid of a little PDA, I dated a guy once who wouldn't even hold my hand when we were in public, but if it was just the two of us he'd be happy to put his arm around me or whatever. Granted, he was a year younger than me, so maybe he just wasn't mature enough. But it just felt like he was trying to hide it. Even though all his friends and all my friends knew we were dating, when we were around any of them he acted like I was just another friend, not his girlfriend.

haha...*sticks tongue out* ...sorry

yeah, I don't get it...if you like to hold your girlfriend, then what's the big deal about doing it in public...it shouldn't matter where you are or who your with to show that you genuinly care.

Gee thanks! *sticks tongue out* lol.

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That's what I thought, I mean, I get if your not comfortable doing that in front of my parents or something, personally, if I like a guy I would advice him not to hold me around my family because they are like phsyocoticly over protective of me. But around our friends? I don't see what the big deal is.

Okay, while I agree that a guy shouldn't be ashamed of his relationship with you, and thus shouldn't be afriad of a little PDA, I also think that this can turn into a show of lust rather than a show of affection. When a guy simply puts his arm around you in public, that's sweet, and I love when my boyfriend does that, because it shows me he cares. However, I often see couples making out in public, and that isn't sweet. Not at all

yeah when they start making out that's just disturbing for young children...*covers Kristina's eyes* haha
if they hold your hand or whatever that's sweet, but as Mandi says, it can go to far. One phrase "get a room"
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Oh yea, a little PDA is fine, but like, I have two friends who are dating, and whenever we go out as a group to the movies or hang out at somebodie's house they just sit in a corner making out the whole time. It's like great, I'm glad you like eachother, could you please do it someplace else.


Heyy! *crosses arms and sticks out tongue* I know, I'm so mature. lol.

as am i. *sticks tongue out too*
Nice...snogging friends in a corner...*rolls eyes*
i've had that experience, we had to chuck a water bottle on them to gt them to stop. they were nice and wet haha.
yeah i mean a guy who will hold hands in public, etc, is lovely, and one liekt hat is perfect. but one who is embarrased or wants to make out is not so good...another to add to the list...
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O yes...I completely agree, I mean I don't mind seeing couples holding hands...but when I see them make out in public...blech...god, can't they keep it PG?....
ok, another number on the list...
The guy I fall for must have a unique & creative style...because, well I am a very creative person & I have the strangest imagination...so naturally I want someone who has the same creative flair & not some boring, mundane sense (ok, I know I am being picky...but, hey...)

well I am glad you think so. you can call me kyle btw.

I didn't need that explanation to figure that out.
ok, tuning in with the conversation. PDA is so confusing to me. Some girls like it, some don't. so yes, very confusing.
um, I also like girls with nice genuine smiles. I hate those smiles that looked like they've been soaked in botox & I also hate it when people give me a "dirty" smile. so yeah. a good smile.

Umm...ok, I'm a bit confused. Is a dirty smile perhaps a leering sort of one, or is it simply that she needs to brush her teeth? And yes, when a woman has obviously had work done on her lips, that can take away from the appeal of it, I suppose. Then again, for a guy, Jamie has some pretty full lips, but at least they're natural Anyway, I know that a genuine smile on a guy is always attractive, so I think it's natural to like that in a girl as well

i think he was referring to a sexy smile hahaha

exactly genuine smiles are the most beautiful ones they don't have to be the best smiles but if they're sincere, they're amazing

okay you lot have posted tons but you're right...a genuine smile is the best...i think most people have lovely genuine smiles... but they only look horrid if they're fake. you can always tell.
and botox is gross...how could someone do that to themselves... ?! ( sorry really against plastic surgery to make people look "prettier" )
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Hmm..water, I'll have to remember that. lol.


Oh yea, definitly, I'm not saying he has to be the most creative person on the planet, but I don't want some boring guy with no imagination. And I think your allowed to be picky when imagining your dream guy. lol.


Hi Kyle, I'm Kristina.


Well, I can't speak for all girls, but as far as I'm concerned the only good PDA is like holding hands or putting your arm around me or something. I mean, there's nothing wrong with kissing, but when your sitting there making out in front of everybody, well, I know it gets annoying to be forced to sit there and watch it so...


I agree, I love it when a guy gives me a genuine smile.

I don't know what it is with me, but I always fall for the soccer playing guys with nice hair and blue eyes. But normally they are WAY out of my league, I'm a band geek,they're all really hot and have the preppy girls all over them . *sigh* Oh well, Dorky guys can B cool too.

OMG today, I was talking to my teacher, and my friend had told him who I liked (Lets just say his name is Bob-The guy I like) And so my teacher asks him (Bob) "hey -Bob- do you like red heads???" (I'm a red head) and Bob is like "NO" and looks right at me!!!!! It was soooo humiliating!!!!!!!
Smiles are great too!!!!

Haha, sorry FawkesRoxmysox, but that's funny! Admit it, if it was someone else you would have been laughing too! Seeing other people embarassed is funny! Well I guess only if they can take it.

Smiles are one of the first things I look for in a girl.

did i read something about PDA? i'm not a big fan actually! i have no problem with hand holding or hugging but kissing emmm no! lol
yes kyle what is a dirty smile? lol i'm not even going to write what i think it is!

emm FawkesRoxmysox i say revenge is the answer for you're teacher! and emm soccer players are not my thing! i prefer baseball players or hockey players or basketball players lol not a big fan of soccer

i thought you were an eye person sam

Go band geeks! Well, technically I'm a choir girl, but at my school their basically the same thing so...Sorry, that's getting off topic. Blue eyes are nice, I'm a sucker for green eyes though...I don't know why.


Wow, that stinks. I would be so embarrased. I'm embarrased pretty easily though so...


Same with guys, if he has a nice smile he has my attention. lol.


I don't think I want to know what you were thinking, Stef. lol.


I agree, I love baseball players. Or guys in choir. I don't know why other than I spend so much time with them. I am in class with them every day, plus after school stuff, plus hanging out outside of school, and I tend to fall for guys I'm friends with so...

Hi all,

I think this thread is starting to lose its purpose. It shouldn't be a place for people to go back and forth, "Oh yeh, I forgot about that trait" (adds it in), or entering into the 'chat' zone. If people want to hear more about a particular quality or person, do us a favour and PM that person and leave this thread to the topic.

Consider this a 'Or close' warning

~Pix

Hey guys. I need your advice. Ok I really really like this guy and think he's the perfect one for me. He has blond hair, brown eyes and he's skinny. He's nice, funny, and cute. And he knows that I like him but he doesn't like me. And I know that because he told me last year and since I have a huge crush on him i'm still sad after a year, and cry at least once a month. Well today I told someone that I like him who didn't know before, and she said that he liked this other girl. And so of coarse I was shocked out of my mind and couldn't say anything. So I went to my friend to see if she thought it was true. And she said no. But the girl who told me that he liked another girl other than me said that he told her who he liked. The girl who said he liked someone else is Mindy but I don't trust or like her much. But my friend Gabby the one who said that it probably wasn't true is one of my best friends. Who do you think I should believe? And after I talked to Gabby about it I about cried. And so Elijah (a boy who is in my class, who I think i sort of like too but i'm not sure) asked me what was wrong and I told him that I would tell him later but Gabby told him anyway. BTW Elijah knows everything about me liking that boy (Jeremiah) and how I feel about him. And Elijah is a really understanding boy too BTW and when i'm sad he tries to cheer me up. Which is nice. Anyway I walked by him and he asked me if I was ok and I said no. And I just about walked through the locker doors when I heard him call my name so I stopped hoping that he would say something to cheer me up. So I asked him if he knew what was going on and he said yes. And he said it was ok and that I should accept him as a friend and try to move on. And then he patted my back and of coarse by this time I was already crying. And I told him I would try. And then we both went home. And so of coarse I was ready to burst crying by the time we got home, but i didn't in the car cause I didn't want my mom to know. And so thoughts about him and what Mindy said were stuck in my head. So when we got home I ran into the bathroom and fell on the floor crying my heart out. And I cried through my shower. And I didn't eat, smile, or laugh today. I feel so sad and like I won't ever smile again or laugh or ever be happy again. I feel like commiting suicide cause i'm so sad. So I need to ask you guys for your advice on this. And do you guys think I should talk to my crush about this? Do you think I should forget him and all of this? Do you think I should believe Mindy? Do you guys think that Elijah is a better person for me? And how can I tell my crush about this and what can I say? Do you think he will comfort me? Can you give me your best advice for these questions? I really need your help cause i'm an absolute wreck.

Thanks,
Breanna

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Okay, first of all, Sorry Pixymajik, we'll be better, promise!

Okay, Breanna, your probably not going to like hearing this, but I agree with Elijah, it's time to move on. I know it's hard, but any guy who has had you crying over him for over a year is not worth the time or energy. I would however, put a strong bet on the fact that Elijah likes you, it's hard to say because I've never met him so, I don't know, maybe it's just his personality. But as far as I'm concerned, any guy who spends that much time trying to cheer you up and make you happy, and whos telling you he thinks you should move on and get over some other guy, most likely likes you. So, I think maybe you should try to give him a chance. I know that probably isn't much help, because whenever anybody tells me that I should get over the guy I like, who doesn't like me, the first thing I think is, if only it was that simple. But I also know it's true so. Sorry I couldn't be more help.
~Kristina

i'm a really awkward and wierd but i really am kind, cool and respectful i just am bad with girls can somebody make any sugestions?

Well, my best suggestion would be to just try and have small conversations with different girls you have classes with, sooner or later you'll get more comfortable around us. I know that doesn't help much but...Most girls I know, myself included, like shy guys, so that's not exactly a bad thing, but we need to be able to talk to you to. So just start with small things like asking for help with homework or something, sooner or later you'll be comfortable enough to talk about other things. Sorry, I know that probably doesn't help much. But it's the best I've got right now.

thanks but im only in fourth grade and i like girls a little bit older than me

Ah, well in that case I wouldn't worry about it to much, it'll come naturally in a few years. I don't think I ever talked to guys when I was in fourth grade other than to ask a question about something we were doing in class now and then. Now it's the girls I don't talk to. lol.

Okay, So going back to the guy I was talking about before, the one from my youth group. He just started dating a different girl in our youth group, so I guess nothing is going to happen there. *sigh* I seem to have a habit of picking guys that end up liking my friends. Any ideas on how to avoid this?

I am in favour of 'appearances don't matter' and I want a good character first and foremost.Somehow the two guys I liked in primary school(!) were charming and they didn't have the best personalities according to my desires but I liked the whole thing that he had.Not that we were together or anything.I mean I liked the silly talks,the 'I pretend that I am mad at you' look,e.t.c.Now,I love someone completely different.He isn't handsome but I find him cute.I like everything in him;the way he talks,walks,smiles,laughs,stands...

I like emo guys. With a slight gothic thing goin on


I love a guy in studs <3 Haha!

But i like a guy that reads a lot too. And writes,

But the guy i like rite now, he reads plenty, he loves a lot of the same music as me, and hes soooooo not shallow.... its so weird. Hes kind, And did i tell u he wears chains and studs?

Perfect haha! Not perfect but close

yea. i was. for some reason I don't like it when people give me a lustful smile.
o yea. i can't believe i didn't say this before, but i like girls who are independant. I don't know but clingy people are annoying.
o and hey kristina!

clingy people are always annoying. they make it hard for you to have space or breathe !
you don't like lustful smiles *flashes sexy grin* haha, i liek all smiles, aas long as they aren't fake. *grimaces*
fake smiles are horrid and scary and uhhhh
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Yea i agree Sophie. I think no smile is better than a fake smile! I like people with great smiles and personality to match! I like guys that are easy to have fun with because a boring person would just put me to sleep

*snores loudly* sorry what were you saying? j/k
well yeah, but no one is broing, it's just that you may find them boring. they may be talking about quantum physics and you're asleep ( i would be ) but the geeky science gitl next to you might be enjoying it. (ok no one enjoys quantum physics...but you get what i mean )
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sophie...please don't...it's very disturbing...
and yes, since I have a very...(um...) imaginitive mind, i want a person who can meet up to my crazy standards, & share my wild sprirt

*disturbs Jay by smiling more* j/k
imaginative mind? that's what you call it?! lol.
yeah so basically you have to get on with them, and share some common interests. (it would have bbeen easier saying that than the whole quantum physics explanation )
althoguh i want them to have some different opinions to mine..a good debate's always fun
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ChOco- I know a few people for you!!!
Crazy4u- I agree completely. I go for personality more than anything!!! Fun, caring, witty, down-to-earth and ego-less all the way! I definitely would have to be friends with a guy before even considering going out with him. I dunno, it would just be kind of weird to go out with someone you completely don't know!

Earlier we were talking about things we are embarrassed about... Omigosh! I hate how my hands are always FREEZING!!! I guess "cold hands, warm heart," right? Lol...

So, just out of curiosity- How many of you have asked people out before? Girls- Would you be comfortable asking a guy out?

Personally I wouldn't be... I'm kind of a traditionalist in that sense.

me too jojo i really have never asked out a guy i've only hinted that i like them!
a friend here on vtm *cough sam cough* tells me i should grow a pair and ask out a guy i like ok no tell him i like him but i really don't see the difference! anywho i just can't!
so yeah jojo i'm with you guys should be the ones to ask

Yay fany_monkey! Hooray for traditionalists! I think there's nothing sweeter than a guy who's nervous to ask you out. That's another thing I fall for... Guys who are very confident and fun until they ask you out, then they're really shy! That's soooo sweet! Lol!!!

oh yeah as long as they have the guts to ask you out because urgh i can't stand guys who just don't pluck up the courage to ask you even if they know you like them! i mean dude i gave you all the signs i almost practially told you i like you and you like me so just say it!
you can call me stef jojo

I agree, it is pretty disturbing Sophie. *goes and tries to get image out of head* lol.


I have never asked out a guy either, just hinted at it. Strongly. lol. But it doesn't matter, seeing as the guy I like right now likes my friend. Even if I did get the guts to ask him, he likes her so...not much I can do...


haha, Stef, please don't, grow a pair I mean. If you wanna ask a guy out that's fine, but the first part would be pretty disturbing. lol.

Thanks Stef! You can call me Anna or Jojo. Whichever you prefer. There's not that much difference in length, sooooo....

Ya, I totally agree. Just ask, already, right? Shyness is good... to a degree. Still, shy guys are really sweet...

Hey, I gtg Stef, but I'll ttyl, okay???

Jojo,replying to your question:I don't think I will ever be comfortable enough so as to ask a guy out.I am too shy with boys and I am afraid of rejection.And I don't care if they are shy when they ask it.It is sweet.

yeah i'm the same. I'm too nervous to ask a guy out..hopefully i'll be able to when im older, and not become a babbling bafoon! I can talk to some guys about everything, and i can talk through an argument, or tell them how i fell, or anything, i just can't ask them out. weird eh?
shy guys are cute, i wouldn't want one who was really full on and really arrogant, then i'd definatly reject him!
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tell me your secrets, o wise one!
and on the subject of shy guys...they are sweet...
but the over-extreme shy ones, who sweat when I talk to them are really annoying!

yeah, I know...but then again I hate guys who presume you like them & attempt to flirt, even after you have clearly not shown off any signs...and when I tell them this...they go "then what was all the batting eye thing for"...and i'm like "what"...stupid darn eyelashes!...

*bats eyelashes* ... stupid things i like my eyelashes...mine mine mine
overly shy guys are annoying, but just slightly shy, because if they're nervous it shows that they care what you think... yuo don't want some jock whon like strolls around, his amr habing limply over your shoulder, shooting over guys glances cleary stating that 'you're his property'
haha
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true! egocentric fools! I hate it when they treat you like some kind of statue behind a glass cabinet; all there for decoration! One thing that is definately not on my list:
an egocentric baffoon!

egocentric bafoons crossed off the list
added to list :
cute guys who are shy, but not too shy, just enough to show they care...
blimey that's a mouthful!!
i guess a guy who didn't care what otehrs thought would be good too, because the jocks care too much, that's why they act 'cool', so i wouldn't want my guy like that!
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yeah...I would never accept a guy who valued his image more that me...cause of obvious reasons...If they really like you, it shouldn't matter what their friends or anyone else think...

exactly. If they care that much about their reputation then stuff it.
Ok:
egocentric bafoons
jocks
jerks who care more about 'coolness' than you
Not that they were ever on the list *rolls eyes*
I think all any of us is looking for is safety. I know that soubnds weird and cheesy, but having a guy means that they are always there, even when you fall. That's why we want them to be kind, understand us etc, because they'll help us wehn we're down.
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yeah...I guess we all kinda want to them to be supportive & generate a nice warmth (don't pervert my sentences, soph)...